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Welcome back.. how is your understanding now since you went from hn to hcm last 2weeks?

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I have get to know this Viet girl through a online dating website, she is 24 yr and told me she is a student. After chatting online for 3 month every night, i flew down to Vietnam to meet her. We went out to eat, movies, coffee and chat face to face for 1 week. So far she did not ask me to buy her anything nor did i buy her any gift.

One strange thing is when i ask her if she ok to be my girlfriend, she said she want but will not sleep with me until I married her. Out of curiosity, i ask her if she is a virgin and she said she voluntary make love with her ex-bf who is a vietnamese guy.

Wonder any experience brother know usually does vietnam girl always give more to vietnam guy compare to foreign guy when come to relationship?

Please dont zap me for my question as i am just a newbie who is looking for Vietnam partnar and want to know more about vietnamese girls.

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simple because local guy would NEVER accept that, but you guys are too easily manipulated and would accept that, esp unless im mistaken u are much older and much more unattratcive compared to her. The fact you even ask about it shows what a carrot u are.

I woulnmdt be suprised if she still doenst have a viet boyfriend who she is sleeping with NOW, i ahve been many times the willing and unwilling viet guy sleeping with girls who are getting money or benefits from foreigners without having to ever sleep with them.

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The rap by karik ... 'Em la nguoi sao' tells it all..

Part of the lyrics..

Lâu rồi từ lúc Việt Nam bước qua thế kỷ mới
Dân chúng thiên hạ bây giờ ai cũng đua đòi bắt trước tập ăn chơi
Kể cả mấy em girl bây giờ cũng không phải tầm thường
14-15 make love với các em nó là chuyện bình thường
Cứ quen nhau 1-2 ngày.... thì cho đó là yêu..

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Thanks for the extra information. i am indeed much older, 40 yr old. I ask simply because i am surprised by what she said.

I just started to learn vietnamese after chatting with viet girls in online dating website. Em la nguoi sao mean I am what type of people?

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U have so many chances to practise in VN yet u choose to practise here :D

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1strange thing?
I think you are strange to ask a gal 2 strange questions... To be gf and whether virgin or not. :eek:

My view is that vn gals tend to give more to the guy she really love.

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Yes to be gf and virgin is 2 different thing.
Through our chatting online for 3 mths, i know she has a vietnamese boyfriend before.

Since after i meet her and ask her to be my gf, she said she want but only condition is no sex. So i am wondering if she the type who is very conservative girl who does not want pre-martial sex. That is why i ask her if she is a virgin. But to my surprised she is not.

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'Want but no sex' is to test you...
Pre-marital sex is so common now.

The lyrics i hightlighted... '14-15 make love is normal'

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Thanks bro

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this is also a significant part..she doenst not ask is less significant if you willingly give, ie she dont have to ask if u already give, if u just take her to dinner movie date, and NOT give any money gifts and she still want to be your gf then that would be a significant factor...just as a example in 90% of my paid sexual experience, the girls NEVER ask, i just give what i know is the market rate, does that means she is NOT a working girl and i got a freebie?
TEST dont give her any money or gifts except pay for her diner food movie etc and see how much she values u.

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Thanks bro for your valuable insight

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Bro, I have only one girlfriend in Bien Hoa.

But then maybe it is very difficult to shake off the bad image that i had, that is why most still think I am still planting seeds when I had stopped a long time ago.

My seeds only go to Bien Hoa now. Hehe.

Anh hurricane, em van lam viec o nuoc xa, kg ve dc Sing hoac Vn. Chua biet khi nao ve, co le gan roi. Thuong lai ve Sing, se lien lac anh nhe. Chuc anh mai mai vui ve, giu gin suc khoe. Nho anh lam.

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You are a newbie, so no problem asking. But you bring a smile to me. I wish I can still retain that part of my innocence teenage years when dating is just dating.

Well, not only for Vietnam but for most part of the world (excluding ultra religious places), modern dating for adult has evolved such that if you date a girl, you would expect to get into her pants latest on the second date (if it is too hard to convince yourself that it is possible to get it on the first date itself) or you should consider going for another target. That's how the game is played. And most women are keen to receive that kind of attention or otherwise find you a bore or a potential CARROT. Of course if you are looking for long term relationship, you might find a gem using that innocence approach.

At 40, you are considered at the right age to play the mature male candidate role that are attractive for women looking for a more stable senior boyfriend. You should not be playing a boyish innocence role, instead play the role of a more senior male who already knows what he wants, get away with what he wants and can lead her.

To answer your question. I don't think you need to know about Vietnamese girl. I think you need to know how girls operate in general. The short answer to your question is that most girls are attracted to Bad boys, Vietnamese girls are no exception. So lead her into bed if you desire to, she might be expecting you to do that despite all the outward resistance.

Good luck and happy learning. Chuc ban thanh cong.

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Yup...vn gal will want to marry before 24yrs old to any local...after that gal is considered old and less chance to marry local guys...because the guy had big choice selections of 18-21 yrs old gals..:)

In wet nam culture when gal agreed to be gf means gal usually expect gifts and sex and bf to be exclusive...:)

Also when gal learns English means the scope widens to include foreigners...she should had a good idea what foreigners will give and what she will want...all these are because you just met her fresh...but not sure how many hours you spent with daily for a week...and did she spent over nights with you...usually for experienced guys all it takes 3 dates to get under her pants...hahaha...:)

Above are my personal opinions and observations...:)