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Hi bros, hope any bros who have experience in this situation will be able to help me
My vn wife went back to vn for her annual year end holiday with my child. She was suppose to come back spore and on the day she was suppose to return, she send me an email saying she wants a divorce and isnt coming back with our child. When i got the email, I called her but she cut off her mobile.

The very next day, i went to her family house in hcmc and was told by her family members she moved out. they told me they didnt know where she moved to. I came back to spore and went thru her email and found out from a contact of mine in hcmc that she rented a condo and moved.
I went back to hcmc this time to her new add and when she saw me, she screamed at the security guards who brought me up saying, "why u let people come up, i dont want any visitors". Then she repeatedly slammed the door in my face and refused to talk to me.

It has been about a month and she hasnt said a word to me. before she went back, she took a sum of money from me saying she wants to do business there and crap. I send her msgs on fb, viber email and no response at all.

Any bros with any kangtaos in hcmc to assist on this matter? if she wants to leave me, she can go but i want the child back cos after all, the environment for raising a kid is better in spore. my child holds dual citizenship. Spore and vn. Hope any bros can share any tips with me on how to bring the child back. Thanks

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This is a typical case...dun think you knew your wife well before marriage...:)

One of the reason she wanted divorce is she had a bf which you dun know...or you had been caught red handed with another woman...:)

Hopefully your wife may automatic come back if she finished using all her money...then you can decide what to do...when there is first means there is second time...:)

If you want your child back then you need to engage a lawyer to fight for your child during divorce...pls read up women charter law in Singapore...gather enough proof of your wife infidelity if any...before fighting the case...worst case is claimed to hv access of child at least once a week...good luck...:)
The above is IMHO...not to anger anyone...pls skip if you dun like...^^

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Yes, i rushed into the marriage cos we of shotgun. Honestly i wouldnt have married her cos i know she isnt the type to adapt to life in spore. At times during our marriage, i felt like i was raising 2 babies.

not sure if she is cheating on me in vn now but i definitely didnt cheat on her since we were together. Weird thing is she said she filed for divorce in vietnam. Is that even possible that the vn courts can dissolved a marriage registered in spore? We never registered our marriage in vn at all. From wat i read about vn custody laws, kids under 3 automatically go to the mother even if the mother is a useless woman like her.

and i dont think i treated her badly at all during our marriage. her allowance from me is 2k a mth and thats for her own spending only. groceries and stuff is paid by me. She is mad about branded bags, shoes and stuff before marriage and she is still the same after the baby. Her group of friends are also fucked up in the head about these branded stuff and she has more than a few friends who work in the flesh trade to support their lifestyles.

Im not too sure wat is really going on in her head. Is she taking the child in order to squeeze more money later or are viet women that crazy to divorce in a whim of moment?

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she also constantly tells me she is unhappy here in spore and wants us to live in vietnam. I told her, with your craziness about branded goods, wat can i do in vn to support your lifestyle? she said if stay in vn, no need to buy all those branded stuff. honestly that is bullshit to me cos i know as long as she hangs out with her group of friends who always like to show off to each other, she will never stop.

im also unable to buy a house in spore cos of some issues and staying with my family also makes her unhappy. sometimes i feel like her slave and to be really honest, i felt relief when she said she isnt coming back.

I just want my child back here so that he is able to grow up in a better environment. All these vietnamese are dying to come to spore for a better life and she acutally wants to live in vn. dont know wat is wrong in her head

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hi dude,people who meet the right gal will give u positive remarks whereas those unlucky will be negative.listening to too much comments might not be a good choice for u now.

ur most important task now is to consult a lawyer and ask for professional advice on how to get ur kid's custody.

wish u luck

cheers

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They also like to compare Vespa and S-Hug
interesting to know what she thinks and plan for future ... that will provide a better understanding of VB

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Get professional help... Go engage a lawyer

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no advice but seeing your previous probs with your wife its NOT suprising at all.....maybe u can BUY your child back offer a large amt of mioney for custody of child

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i would say use a viet lawyer, the reasoning is this lets say ignoring womens charter and all in singapore which favours custody of child with teh mother, even with a favourable judgment in your favour, how would u enforce it in vn, ud have to wait till she comes back to singapore etc etc, or lure her back, and possibly with the amount f time he soends with her the boy prob wants to stay with her....if u hire a viet lawyer u can possibly have a better chance as its who has the most money for bribes wins, but tehre wilkl be a natural biase for viet nationals over foreigners...i would say solve this using viet tactics, ie buy your child back

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I agree with MC's view. If she decides not to go back SG, why bother spending thousands and effort in SG to fight for your child? Even court awards u in favor, what can authorities do in VN if she ignores it? Solution is thru legal or mafia way in VN.

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wow...your divorce would be costly bro. Based on maintaining her standard of living alone her maintenance would be high without taking into consideration your child yet. Even if you paid one shot maintenance, the amount may be staggering.

How long has you been married?

Most of the time the child will be with mother unless you can prove that she is incapable of taking care of the child.

If she is that smart with her friends, they would teach her to divorce in singapore and squeeze u dry.

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Get a good lawyer

Or like MC or Namelo said, resort it in the old fashion way there.

Having said so, without having a divorce done in singapore properly, you are still leaving yourself liable whenever she comes back to singapore and make a ruckus at your family house or work place.

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I can sympathize with you...but then again dun think you ever read this forum before you marry her...if you do then dun think you will marry her even she has your child...both have few options...:)

after so many years I dun understand VB fully...gave up trying to understand them...I did mentioned VB dun deserved to be nice...you must be harsh with them in order for VB to love you more...:p

anyway...enough advice on your divorce thingy from others...main thing is play cool and be patient...just continue to live your life...:)

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bro KT has a great experience in this...you can read about it here in this thread...of course his colourful love stories too...:)

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huh? :confused::confused: