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23-02-2007 02:22 PM |
Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
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Originally Posted by Sha_Gua75
(Post 1867111)
As for this....some of the people mindset is that as long it is vietnamese....they come singapore is only to work....
This happen to myself when I bring my own decent student vietnamese gf back to my family....World War III erupted....at that time my dad was not in but later he can called me and scold me this "Do you know she come Singapore do what or not?!" He dont even seen my gf but he say such thing :confused:
So you need to change some people mindset slowly...maybe the media play a play too....in creating such a mindset of the people...
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That's bad. By then i feel that such is more of the case of the older generation. Personal experience : I had invited my viet friend home a few times already and my parents didnt even input any -ve comments. Maybe my parents are more open-minded ?
Do agree that the media play a part; in fact i think is a large part. Feel that this mindset of 'viet girls' = WL is mainly incoporated by them to the public. Just reflect on the sensation and discussions that resulted when incidents such as the death of a viet lady 'exiting' through a window at Toa Payoh and at Bedok? (not sure). It was in the news for quite a long period of time in S'pore and was also mentioned in VN news also. Reporters(local) even went to VN to look up her family members. The incident and funeral processions were even mentioned and discussed on 'Frontline' (i suppose this is the correct program). As such, there are much -ve reports by the media and hence this unwanted perception. :(
Furthermore, we as S'poreans(generally) tend to view ourselves to be more superior than our 'neighbours' because our country economy is stronger, being more well-off and have a much higher level of education on average. (in the same sense that whites feeling more superior than asians/blacks) Hence, when someone marries a person from a neighbouring country, the first impression that people have is that he is unable to find a local partner. Moreover, the reports in the mass media on marriage agencies 'helping' locals in their 40s or 50s tying a knot with a 20s do not help at all. This also further fuels the conception that cross-countries marriages are arranged(bought) and not build on love. However, if one was to get married with a Japanese or someone from an 'advanced' country, the perception would be totally different.
Well, just my thoughts... |
