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These are harsh realities. Singapore men are known for their kindness and gentleness. They behaved like wimps and these are evident from some of the threads here. Most singapore gals will never fancy at this good for nothing wimps. So these men have to seek solace from foreigner brides. If they fell head over the heels of some of these indecent foreigner gals who working as WL then they became the likely victims of what we had heard and read in this thread. Take an example, Mao86, at a young age of 23. I can assure you he will fell in love with other gals as well if these gals knew how to kc him and make him felt good. He don't possess the knowledge of the kc game and he wasn't hurt before. Sure he will have to experience this and sure it won't be once but several more times before he knew how to play this game. You were right to say trust only 20 to 50 percent what you hear or don't hear. The rest leave it to imagination. So moral of story singapore has too many gentleness and kindness campaigns.

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yeah i also wonder why my mum love my hot tempered and agressive father. it turns out she think he is manly....

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So you went to report for duty already right? :D

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Personally, I dont feel that it is wrong with falling in love with an older lady. There are so many examples in reality. When cupid shoots, there will never be any logical explanation.

Everyone will have a different point-of-view. Here, we dont know his character, his abilities, his desires, his background, his short/long term goals, etc. If we tell him to go for it or not to go for it and he accepted the advice however, if there is any impasse in the future, are we going to take the blame? I used to have such friends whom blame others for his predicaments and it sucks. On a lighter note, I have this feeling that he is just waiting for someone to edge him on or to make decision on his behalf. Apparently, most of the guys here are asking him to re-consider or to consider in-depth. Many guys have contributed their valuable experiences with success and failures.

Sometimes it does take a "fall" in order to grow up and appreciate the "surroundings" more.

Best is to listen, analyse, interpret and make your own decision. That's what I was taught since young. I believe that only he knows what he wants and he have to be solely responsible for his own actions.

Another useless and redundant posting by me.

P.S: Better talk to ah gong first before he goes into house arrest next month.

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Your father acted correctly and give the family a sense of security. If, no malice just state example, your dad is a wimp then sure your mum will be the tigeress in order for the family to be together. Similarly vn gals also like their husband to be manly in order for them to be submissive and of course gentle and great in bed.

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of coz i know that just wanna use him as a illustration. most likely there are things he did which is correct. So we learn to be abit more bad but not too bad lah..

those good man are those whimpy man and yet woman dispise them. what a farking joke the woman's are dreaming all this while.

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mm..probably they see a walking 'gold bar' rather than a 'lovely ban gai'..:o

I've met a Vn couple - vn boy & ger in their early 20s - bought a private unit, staying together here in Sg. Nice ger (pretty, in fact!), normal young-man (like any of our decent 20+ guy). I reckon, many gd nice Vn gers - low chance of hooking up with Sg guys, they would go for nice/handsome Vn guys oredi... :(

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yup, so village gal is the way to go.. haha

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ok..ok..I get the pt. So must hook up bros going to Vn with their bx/gf/wife & travel to their villages to 6c6c then...

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not necessary, just noe that as a singapore man, u already have the advantage but need to be more man and bad than in singapore. city gals also can sian de, just know what todo at the righttime..

dun need be nice all the time. just be nice when u feel like. and normal at times. angry at times. demanding at times.. it is hard to say. it needs practice and more practice.

singapore man are wimpy becoz they are nice all the time and let woman decide their mood. the key is that we sway their mood not the other way round. 80% we decide 20%they decide.

I am not saying we should behave like ass but behave like a man who knows what he wants and Gets what he wants. Never ever let a woman feel that their pussy can tame you.

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A quote that I saw somewhere else.

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Well .. Really bad guys get all the girls .. Good guys ?? Get cheated !! Of money, still ok .. Of feelings, worse than death loh !! At first when I get into the r/s, I thought as long as my money is not cheated, then nvm .. But nw I feel so bad everyday, then I know cheated of feelings are worse than money lost !! Hahaha !! Really hope I can forget everything asap !! But still I think there are some nice Viet gers out there for nice guys, rite ?? Lets hope I can meet one in the future then !!

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There are also quite a number of educated viet city gals in big cities like HCMC and Hanoi. I have personally known some of the time thru the years. These gals are very much like Singapore gals, quite demanding. They want handsome and rich guys and most of the time, their families only allow them to go out with vietnamese as going out with foreigners are only for villagers who want money.

There are always lots of good gals and also plentiful of bad gals in Vietnam and every other country. Bros just need to open up your eyes and be extra careful when dealing with foreign ladies. Sometimes, do some evaluation. Think of this `doing sex aside, is this gal whom i really want to be with the rest of my life?' Dating is always sweet as both parties try to present the best to each other. But marriage needs nuturing, patience, sacrifice and lots of financial capability. Ask yourself if you are up to it..... If you are, congrats, if you are not, better have fun and pay. ;)

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After all these comments, feedback, arguments, advice, etc. I hope our young Bro Mao86 received enough info to gauge what he wants to achieve in one year, three years, ten years or even longer.

Good luck to you Bro Mao86.

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If u chiong JC/GL with me for 3 months and after that u still think of your GF then perhaps u really miss her :D

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U sounds like my fren, a fatty 23yo, now working in ICA somemore :(