Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
 

TV sets in vietnam cost around the same as singapore after these few years of tax reductions. Before WTO, electronics and mobile phones cost so much more relative to singapore, but nowadays, its about the same. Go Nguyen Kim on Tran Hang Dao Street to check it out. ;)

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Bro Seletar, my gf shares a rented room with another girl from her province. Both works in the same factory. When I visit, her friend will sleep in the living room where motor bike is parked (Yes, they park their motor bike in the house)

They don't need a LCD tv, just a normal tv will be sufficient. Anyway the transmission quality is lousy, but they still enjoy watching hours of tv.

Their living style is very basic, don't even have a cupboard for clothes. They have a metal rack that are used to hang dresses. Normal t-shirts etc are just packed into a box

Shower are made do with just cold water. I almost froze at my first trip to visit her and then to her parents in the countryside. Just reminds me of my recruit days in the army.

Fans are the scary bit, the cover is being removed. These are their way of life that i observed. You will be surprised, they are hardly than we thought.

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Thanks bro SingViet.:)

Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
 

yes, the lifestyle of the normal vietnamese is very simple. I doubt not many singaporeans can live like them. So do not use singapore standard to estimate how much money they need, use their vietnamese standard. ;)

Re: need some advice....
 

Firstly happy new year 2011 to all bros and wish u guys the best for this year.

I have been in contact with a viet gal for about one year ever since she was deported back from Spore and i am seriously looking for some advice from the viet bros who are married to vietnamese or have been in a serious relationship with vietnamese...

I would like to thank in advance any bros who bother to read and replies to my thread whether good or bad comments , greatly appreciate as long as it comes from the heart.

Here is my story :

Got to know this viet gal in Spore in dec 2009 ... she was deported back in may 2010 until now we have been in contact ever since.... we speak to each other on a daily basis... i have been up to vn to vist her 4 times ever since she was deported back .. but honestly i dunno much about that place..

I have asked for her father her hand in marriage with her around he replied to me saying that if you are serious bring your parents up to discuss.. i have been to her province in "tien gang" and have seen her relatives but seriously i think all these do not mean anything special..

Her family is quite big.. she have 2 elder sisters now ... 3 small kids .. one is her daugther which is 9 years old the other two belongs to her elder daughter who passed on and the husband is not around.. she have an elder brother and a younger sister , her mother and her father who is very very sick now... all these i seen with my own eyes...

So far from my knowledge , the 2 elder sisters r not working but they are married already .. her bro , her younger sis and mom are also not working.. She say she is the only reponsible one taking care of the family .. her mom , dad and the 3 small kids...

i can tell that money is very important to her.. she tells me she is in debts.. but i dunno how much truth is there in that.. she asks me for money like on a regular basis once or twice a month ... in the past i use to quarrell and get pissed off with her over this money issue constantly.. until now at this level i have accepted money is important to her and give her some allowance every month...

She tell me she is in debts .. which i seriously dunno.. she ask me to help her settle her debt .. which the amount is the same as the allowance i give her.. so now the allowance money i dun give i just give money to settle her debts monthly which in the end makes no difference actually.

I can feel that she cares for me.. she have expressed her feelings of wanting to come back to singapore and have a future with me...but i really dunno if she comes back to spore will she cock up anot ... she have asked me questions like :when i come back spore where do we stay ? will your mum and siblings accept me ?

Than sometimes she tells me that she feels that she is wasting my time because of her sitaution .. sometimes ask me to wait sometimes tell me to just do whatever i want..

she also have expressed her feelings of wanting her daughter to come to singapore to stay or whichever as long as we three are together...

The bad thing is .. she have lied to me many times before.. she is not totally honest with me.. ... She have vietanmese guy at vn i have caught her a few times already... i found out when the viet guy called me and send me stupid smses.. how did he get my no? ... surely when he was with her together la ... i think he does not like what is goin on between me and her... i questioned her about this.. she told me he and her used to be lovers.. is he something more to her are they together or just fling? i really dunno la... i know she really cares for me sometimes when i see the things she do.. but sometimes when all these happen i really dunno what to say ...

Many people tell me slowy take my time to see.. but the more i see the more i get blur....

bro's any advice.. the bro's who are married to viets or have been with viets in long relationships.. what do u think.. am i in a tragic comedy ????

Re: need some advice....
 

Your story is as common as the traffic jams in HCMC. Break up with her immediately and stop falling in love with a WL.

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haha, forget about her and move on. you will have a even more tragic ending if you choose to be with her. like what other bro said, yr case is normal and common, a viet gal conning a foreigner guy. :D

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Last night about mid night time I received several smses from a friend of my gf, she said in the sms that my gf lied to me many things and she told me becareful of my money. This girl who sms me is the one who introduced my gf to me. They quarrel over certain things, and this girl spills the beans telling me my gf has 5 men including me and many more lies.....

I realised bro, Hurricane told me do not trust WL. And another bro, forgot who, may be is Volcano or Shysaint told me, just believe 50%. I am confused, last night did not sleep at all. Is it the girl who quarrel with her jealous I give my gf money or my gf bad mouth her ?? Why this girl don't tell me earlier before I lost my money ? Bro, pls help me

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I agree with papilllon30,,,this thread easily has 10 similar versions of your stories...and at least 100 advices to go...just search and read them...this thread is indeed going to be a encyclopedia...:)

I quote my famous quote of the century "If you can trust WL then pigs oso can climb trees..."

Quote Bro naemlo quote "She is different from other girls..."

Re: need some advice....
 

I am in Vietnam to find a different ger. :D

Re: need some advice....
 

Your response was quite instantaneous. Enjoy yourself while you are there.

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Will do and trying to find a different ger. Any idea which place is ideal where WL is more trustworthy? :D OMG....

Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
 

dude,, all these problems oni hv 1 concrete solution.. STOP sendin them MONEY n e truth wil surface sooner than u hv expected.., :eek::eek:

Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
 

No money no more friendship, no love, very realistic

Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
 

Just like how you want more girlfriend feeling or care from these viet ladies, you just tell them you've recently met a very attractive lady from Singapore. Maybe this Singapore girl is wife material. With the prospect of their rice bowl being broken, these ladies will be very sweet to you in the near future. That's what I think...