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correct i agree,but some sg man simply is not gong but like to show off to those girl they are rich.gong in a sense that they think they are smart hahaha :D

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so bro u know huh,eat full already then suck u dry :D just joking.btw they normally treat foreign ppl like that so is normal :p

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My sis in law also this type of people.Whatever concerning Vietnam is no good, nia mah very kay poh ask me why everytime go VN, becareful the VN girl con you. And talk bad about me. :(

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Yes you are right. All the good dishes are all included in the money you will be giving to them soon. :D

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Bro, there are 1001 sob stories but end of the day, we can't help all .... we can feel sorry ...in the name of KC, never do anything that derided the good name of us ....

want to have a kid, even with no marriage, we must be ready to take up responsibility ......

use a condom else get Postinor the morning after pill ....

all my years, the only type I left something behind, I still taking care of it right now even though I have move on to other girls .....

Have Responsible Sex, Don't Leave Anything Behind !!!!

Imagine the amount of cursing and swearing that you get for the rest of your life from being irresponsible....not unlucky also become unlucky ....

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When Vietnamese wives ask for money for their:

Sick dear father
School fees for their brother
Roof repair for their parents' village house in Vietnam
Application and starting monthly rental for their mother to start a small shop in Vietnam
Bribes for the Vietnamese Government official
Etc...
(One or combinations of the above);

later, when a Singaporean husband married to them, visit them in Vietnam, is it true they really spend the donated money on the above? Or the Vietnamese wives/inlaws sometimes explain away why the donated money is spent but they actually stealthily pocket the money.

Are the average Vietnamese spenders or savers? Thank you.

On a separate matter, remember that young Singaporean Chinese man newspaper vendor? He found his Vietnamese bride from a marriage broker. They were 1 week away from their marriage. Unfortunately she met with a car accident while crossing a road in Singapore. She was in a coma. Her Vietnamese parents flew to Singapore. The Singaporean man wanted $XX 000 from her parents to release her to them. They did not agree and they did not have the money. They secretly removed her, still in coma, and flew her back to Vietnam. The man later told the New Paper reporter that he is now looking for a Japanese wife!

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end of the day, it is about managing expectations.

most of this people being uneducated or have not travel aboard think the world of people beyond their shores. Look at the news they have on national TV, mainly domestic with 1 international news .....

naturally because of this, they tend to think that foreigners are rich, what I did was a round of education to them that all is relative to where we are from. we may earn more but cost of living is higher ....always let them know that you are not as rich as they think but then some idiots in the name of love give their wife everything...

I once had a friend whom despite my advice to take a while before getting married, rush into a marriage with a vb after 3 months. He was 40 plus and she was only 23. He told she love him like mad.

After staying in sillypore for a few months, she went back on the pretext that she missed her family and never came back. everytime he ask her back, there are untold problems and he needs him to send money to help. Once he told me that the wife's brother in prison and every month have to give @SGD500 as bribes...this is a complete utter bullshit from my sources, maybe SGD1000 to secure one complete release ......

The story ended with her telling him she had cancer. My friend borrowed heavily from loan-sharks to send her money like mad ....it ended with him helping the loan-shark and ending up in prison for it ....

the last I heard was her wife now had some properties in vn thanks to his kind donation.......

this is why my advice is "my money is my money", never let them know the true extent of your wealth......if you can trust them on matters of money then even pigs can fly ......

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There are much more Singaporean guys got cheated by Viet VB than the other way round. The thing is, abortion to the viet gals, is like eating COM TAM and drinking COCA. So there's no complaining about getting pregnant when they have chosen to be in this line. Even if pregnant, i am sure most of them are not sure who is the real father, so most of the time, they will just grab one `ready' one to carry the responsiblities. So if fellow bros get into such situation, the best is to carry out a DNA test upon the birth of the child to ascertain the identity of the child before you spend `bombs' to feed and educate someone else's child.

As for taking money from singaporean husband, there's 101 reasons to take money from Singaporean husband. Singaporean husbands should also manage the Viet spouse's expectations. Show them your pay slip and the many other BILLs to pay each month, do a calculation to show them. There's no need to be a hero, keep quiet and keep fulfilling their wants, and finally, find yourself becoming ridden by lots of debts. Why should you borrow money to give to them to enjoy? They enjoy there in VN and you slog like a dog here. I let my wife know how much i earn each month, what are the bills to pay and how much we can save. I have my own account, my wife has hers also and we also have a joint account. All the balances are clear to avoid misunderstanding. When my wife signs her VISA supplementary card, she will let me know what she signed for and how much. But she tries her best not to use the VISA and most of the time, she will use cash or NETS.

So communication is very important, especially these Viet Spouse are not too familiar with how things operate here. It will take time for them to understand, but for sure they will try to understand if they really love you and care for you and the kids. :D

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Well said ... Cannot don't agree more :)

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haha...this matter I knew the story and wrote forum...nope he didn't marry Jap but instead got another Vn baxa...now a father to a boy more than 1 year old liao...also no longer selling newspaper...sold their 4 room flat and down graded...also moved away...:p

http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showpos...postcount=5084
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showpos...postcount=5090
http://www.sammyboyforum.com/showpos...postcount=6320

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i think this person is mentally sick :confused:

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I would think so too...:eek:

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even I myself, I try to use Cash so that I can feel the "pain", very effective as I save more now. ;)

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It is good to set credit limit to the supplementary card that you give to your viet wife, this is especially so if they are very much concerned about their viet family's financial situation and they go back Vn often. At the same time, do not give them the PIN number. You will not them to withdraw all from the credit card to give to their parents when they are in Vn.

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Sure fully withdrawn if knew PIN.