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They like to carry big box tie with string or big hand carry bag like for carrying of goods and not luggage bag or big havasack like we carry,thats why when my wife come back,always kana the immigration officer ask her to put into the x ray belt cos looks like brings goods back to singapore.

they like to buy a lot and help their friends to carry back,that why i always quarrel with my wife at airport until i fed up and told her she go morning flight and i go afternoon flight cos during check in,we always quarrel cos i like to travel light

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sometime is also depends on who your girl mix with.if a few have,they will start to compare cos they are girls.when my wife first come to sg,she dont know any branded handbag.then later after knowing some viet girl who marry sg man,she start to chant LV,then gucci to me.later she know that i have taka voucher and ask me to bring her to buy gucci handbag at taka

i bring her there and after touching the first bag,she left cos my taka voucher not enough and i told her i am unwilling to pay for branded goods and lucky she never pester me anymore and she go get her LV and GUCCI at pasar malam:D

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wow eye opener for me and maybe for sg ppl who think of opening a cafe there is cheap.yours is district 7,so roughly can guess if at district 1 is much more higher,2 or 3 times more?

so those big and super beautiful deco should be own by those viet kieu,i guess

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what a word to use to describe :D:cool:

nam mo om mi "LV"
nam mo om mi "gucci"

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sorry bro,not to hurt u more but i find that u should ask yourself what u think of this relationship.we can only advise as a outsider,today lost $$ and lost gold,tomorrow maybe lost another things and the next day maybe she lock the door and not give u in.is never ending.

i hope u can be brave and understand what is going on between u and her.if she is not really good as what u suspect,ask yourself how long or what u want to do to maintain your marriage.

apologise to u if i sound very mean to u

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short and sharp,same as my thinking :D

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PR i know can,how about short or ltvp pass spouse?

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Same like me and my wife always go back vietnam at airport sure quarrel due to overload of luggage.

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don't think i will get married with her soon. just that she got deported twice recently and she got into debt with their local ah long bcuz of the air tix. i understand they earn very little every month and one round trip air tix is 3-4 times their monthly income. she told me a thinking... if a man walked up to her and offered to pay her debts and in return she must marry him... she will agree although she dun really like him but after some time she might like him... i think its their culture that who can help them financially they will like them sooner or later.

sometimes i keep thinking if this is conspiracy to cheat my money haha... she say the debt is around $1k (not inclusive of her family debt which is add up to $3k but she say i dun need to pay for this... again not sure if it's a story again)

and she invite to her house to let her parents and ppl around her to see she got a sg bf. she say doing so will make those ppl she owed money to believe she will have the chance to go sg and earn big bucks again. she got deported twice in one month. and those ah long dun believe she got chance to go sg to work and she say those ppl will come to her house and take their belongings. i dunno if bros here got similar story...

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I personally use iCallBack. $8 for 150mins talktime to vietnam.

Wahahaha me too. :D

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Setting up cost is just one part, operation cost is lagi worse. Those cafe ladies , whom i refer to as `coffee-mate' cost quite a bomb too. You cannot have just 2 or 3 coffee-mates as customers often come because of the SYT coffee-mates. So to have 7 to 10 of them is very normal. 1 coffee-mate monthly salary is minimum 2.8 million VND, so 10 of them will be 28 million VND a month. At the same time, you need another 1 to 2 person to prepare the drinks, if you get one that is trained, you need to pay around 3.5 to 4 million VND a month. Also needed are 2 person to help wash cups and plates, each person 2.5 million VND. So think about it, just salary alone will cost 28 million + 4 Million + 2.5 million + 2.5 million = 37 million VND a month just on salaries. All these are without rental yet. So, its not easy running a cafe. :eek:

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Just curious, after kanna deported once already, how can she come into Singapore again within 1 year to get deported again the 2nd time? :confused:

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I do not think so. In Singapore and other countries where laws are mature, a marriage is only recognised when there's a marriage certificate.

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I feel that there should be some tell tales sign before things went missing. Is she constantly asking you for money for her family and you have been refusing? Many Vietnamese spouse feel that they can get anything they want after they give birth to children for the husband. I think this is another case when you didn't explain your financial ability to your vietnamese spouse. I think COMMUNICATION is very important. She's your wife, you won't lose `face' just because you let her know your financial abilities.

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Singapore will only recognise legal marriage ceritficate. However quite messy if got child (w/o cert - customary wedding). Can sue for maintenance - not half property. Share of inheritance also - in case of your death and you are rich!!

Put some mark $ notes (take down numbers) or gold articles around. Video area 24 hrs or check when she is not around when lost. All the best.

Unlikely to be deported twice - fishy!! How she did it?? Story very familiar - not new. Pay $1K; future $3K (more subsequent sob stories) plus endless more.

Interesting thread - sorry unable to refrain from comments. Hope useful. Cheers:D.