vietboy |
19-03-2012 11:35 PM |
Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner
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Originally Posted by DearestLove
(Post 7006319)
No , im not giving in i only give what i feel its enough based on personal experience. I told wife before our marriage, im marry her and not buying her whole family. This family consist of both of us, both of us need to work hard for this family. Im not rich, nor i live in big houses. I only have a heart that is willing to be oxa em tot suet doi, im still young now but i will work to make sure you dont starve. When time ripe i will bring you over to stay with me. I think her parents despise me because i didnt give them a lot of things when we marry, despite not being rich she still chose to marry me.
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yes, u r not buying her whole family but marriage is not just 2 person thingie, it is also a 2 families thingie. it include yur parents and her parents. it is not just the 2 of u. marriage is a journey, not a transaction.
Vietnamese are very strong in their family ties, family comes 1st b4 anything. its very different from ours. u want them to give up on their family? No way bro...
i dont know what excatly happened btwn u n yur in-laws, but i believed they dont despise u, they r have happy to have a foreigner as son-in-law. it brings honour to their family. how can they dislike u?
like the bros had said, u need time to educate yur bx n including her parents.
sorry, i nhieu chuyen a bit: can i ask how long u know yur bx b4 yur marriage?
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