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Hmmm, a little wrong.

To her, She want to work because she want to help me financial wise.
To u is she stand by u when u are really down and into poverty stage,thats why u love her. <Deleted>

Changes are in red.

Just sharing my thoughts

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i will never let my bx work as WL also.... not because i don't want her to suffer (to vb, working as WL is just another job.. not suffering at all)

truthfully its all about face value... :)

just like what my bx told me last time... i go out play as long as not caught and seen or play with her friends its ok liao. its her face value.. :)

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Plan wise.

My debts will soon be clear, 2 years time.
Now arranging for her 2 kids to come to sillypore to study. Sourcing for help in this matter. Checked through MoE, need get a school to accept them and do a test to access their standard before putting them in an appropriate level. I can be their guardian and sponser as i am considered their Step-Father now.

After debt clear, or maybe after next march, she will stop working and become a full time housewife, doing some sales to other WL while i will source for another house near JC so that i can rent room to VB to supplement my income. (Now living in parents' flat but i am paying for it. Personal Family stuff, wont share it here.)
Its incredible the amount of rent they pay for a room near to their work place. She will take care of the up up and down down of the house and her 2 kids, while i will work and earn the bread.

Planning to have a baby when everything is more or less settled down.

After everything clear and settled, work work and work even more, save more money and move to vietnam and leave kids here to work and live here, (Depends on them and how high they study.) Meanwhile i will be living a self-sufficient life in vietnam, not asking for the sky but just able to live comfortably. (That is when i decide to retire.)

That in a nutshell is my plan for our future if nothing cocks up

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your plan sounds right but you are missing many things...we dun know how old you are now...your bx will be 50ys old when you are 43...hopefully you still find her appealing both sexually and lovingly...dun think she will want to retire in vietnam with you...:)

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I am 27yrs old now, and my BX 33 yrs old. Mention before, she is not a looker, very small size with A cup breast, and comes with 2 kids. So i am thinking that i love her for what she is, not because of looks.

This plan is she give me one. Because she thinks singapore very very expensive.
She once told me, if can stay Vietnam but take singapore money, very good.

So any1 got any lobang to become a expat in vietnam?

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Cannot always lugi... once in awhile must pop to scare u.

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Of course, dun trust ALL WL, trust those who u think are trustworthy....

Love VB, of course not ALL, only those that are worthy of your Love...

Why come out with those "dangerous sweeping statement "??? When those VB said Singapore men XNN, what do you think? 看看别人，想想自己。

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More than 20million man are like that??? How u know? U know them all???

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haiz..................another dreamer.

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Before trying to be an expat, ask yourself these questions:

(1) what's your education level?
(2) What's your working experience and expertise? Companies do not employ you and send you over as EXPAT just because you have a viet wife.
(3) If you cannot feed your wife here already, what makes you think life in VN will be better?

Normal expats in VN are not paid much, unless you are posted there as some director of public listed companies. Stop dreaming, pull up your pants and BE A MAN. Stop sending your wife out there to earn a living as WL. Tell your wife the truth, she can forget about PR as how will the government grant PR to her when you cannot even feed yourself?

Sorry to be blunt but i seriously look down on man like you who marry and cannot feed your wife. Worse still, still let your wife work as WL to support herself. You are only 27 years old, what big car and big money can you earn last time? Stop boasting here and BE A MAN.

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Never mind, its been so common that i dont get believe when i speak about my past. Its always about my age.Older Singaporeans with their fixed and brainwashed mindset always think that young adults cant succeed when they are young. Nowadays, there are so many 20-29 yrs old millionaire out there. What makes you think that i cant be one of them?

And about the expat thingy, that's a joke, a scarsm if you don't get it. I will go vietnam work as an expat if i got the chance, but i do not purposely go search for that chance. My plan, if you read carefully, is to work in singapore until i choose to retire and go over to vietnam to retire.

I already told her that its very hard to get PR in singapore nowadays and she knows it. Since i know her, i have never harbor any thoughts of her becoming a PR. Because i am a Ex-convict, i was nearly bankrupt, and i have a poor credit rating. She understand me and she just want to stay near me, never mind PR or no PR, as long as it's near me.

And about supporting her when i cant even feed myself. Yes, i cant feed my self now, but who is to say after 1 or 2 years, i cant get back what i lost? I am still young, i have the energy to chiong back everything i once lost. And not to boost, but to make a point, i am earning 4k+ per month, how many 27yrs old you know is making 4k+ per month now.

I hate it when people look down on me. I had it enough with people looking down on me. Think about what you are writing before you post, Please.

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there's nothing to be proud of if you earn big bucks doing illegal things. I think about what I am writing . make 4k plus a month is a lot ? no one will look down on you if you don't send your wife out as WL. How will you view a man who sends his wife out as WL ? if you feel that's something to be proud of, it's your call.

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Yo jklpoi, bro singviet is known for his straight talking no-nonsense style of addressing issues but I am sure he doesn't mean it the bad way...so relax;)

Basically most of us here are concerned and alarmed that you actually allow your wife to continue working ....that's about it!

Ever heard the phrase " you can marry a WL to become ur wife but not a wife to become a WL" ?

Granted, We do not know your history and your situation but I am sure most of us cannot accept that you still allow your wife to work now. Simply because there are too many implications in letting her do so. If she gets caught, there are so many negative implications that wll affect both you and her.

We would have maybe worked harder maybe like taking on two jobs so that wifey can stay at home. If $4k is not enough for now, take on another..even if you go become a security guard at night, it'll get you about 1.5k monthly. gross....see?

We mean well but are tough talking lots here...not to say we are experts or what not but simply because we wanna make you see the picture cos we've been through tough times initially as well and would like to share it with you that there might be other ways to handle the situation.;)

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Uhmmm...who say i earn big bucks doing illegal stuff?
I only do illegal stuff after i lost everything.
If thats the misunderstanding, sorry i didnt make it clear.

Well, to me, 4k plus is not a lot when compared to my peers, they are earning upwards to 5 digit a month. minority of them. Majority of them is earning close to 6k-8k per month. No illegal stuff mind you. Dont stay so deep in your little Vietnamese world, come out and take a look at the Singaporean world. It is now possible for adults below the age of 30 to earn so much without resorting to illegal stuff.

But compared it to the majority of young people out there, by young i mean below 30, 4k+ per month is what most of them can only dream of. Not all, but most of them.

For any man that has wife that do WL job, first i will understand what kind of WL job is she doing. SEX, a definite look down upon. If normal sitting, grouping, light kissing, i will first understand what makes her go out as a WL. If the reason is good enough, then so be it. I will still respect her.

SingViet, you seems to be so well versed in Vietnam that you forget your own Singaporean roots. Wake up, spell the air, times are changing. Even the mighty and oh so noble singaporean girls are working in KTV now, offering no sex but light kissing, groping and talking, cause it's freaking good money.

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What makes you think i have forgotten about my own singaporean roots when i stay here, run business here, have kids studying here ? Yes , times are changing, more and more young people are only thinking about money, without morals. We live in 2 different worlds, i wish you good luck. ;)