Dealing With Addiction
 

A serious topic for once. When I started cheonging, I thought it would be just be a few days of fun time then back to reality. Then I learned that once I get a taste, I always want to go back for more. So I became addicted to this scene and I see so many addictions now.

1. Drinking
So many guys at bar, clubs, ktv, just drink and drink. Lose their money and health. But they can't stop.

2. Money
You stop drinking and sex, focus on work and making money. Then you get addicted to making money. The working girls are all like this. Addicted to money and fancy things.

3. Sex
Maybe 90% of this forum. Meeting girls, sleeping with them, talking with them, start to like them.

Lucky I don't do drinking much or drugs. I have some money now, but not addicted to making more. But now addicted to girls. At first, just had fun and a nice relaxing time. Then started to fall in love and grow attached. But felt lonely and sad because it's just a fantasy, nothing more than money exchange, not real love. So I try to move on and have more sex to feel better. Eventually just become addicted to sex. But every now and then, still meet a special girl and fall in love again.

How do you stop addiction? I think if you quit cold turkey, you can become addicted to something else? Maybe it's because you are missing something in your life that you seek out these things?

Anyone else feel the same? Are you addicted to something?

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'Addiction' is often associated with drugs - harmful hallucinogen substances such as cannabis, opium, heroin, ecstasy, ice, etc. But in reality, addiction means simply a source of mental comfort for an individual to live life. Most, if not all Humans, are addicted as each does need a comfort zone to retreat to for mental well being, and MOST, need not rely on harmful drugs that are a source of danger to others & ESPECIALLY to oneself gifted with life.

My addiction is MILK. Each morning, once my eyes opened, I would hit the fridge for my daily intake, bought in cartons. If my fridge run dry, I would walk than to drive in my groggy state, to the nearest 7/11 store to buy it. Even though I take all kinds of drinks in the day or nite, I would not do the same, except for milk. Thus it is an 'addiction' that most would generalize the term. Milk does not harm or hurt anyone, available cheaply everywhere, but is beneficial, as it has calcium mineral, necessary for bones strength.

I once had co-habited with a nice local lady for a few years. Her 'addiction' is her bolster. Each nite she would hug her bolster, new or old, even after we made love. One nite, i decided to prank her - hide her bolster. She was in a state of shock I had never seen before when we went to bed that night. She searched the rooms in the house, upstairs, downstairs, kitchen, everywhere & when she could not find it, she came back into the bedroom crying real tears. I told her, rather insensitively perhaps the bolster had grown legs & fled, which resulted in her crying more.

I can & had faced worse dangers in life, but I could never remain indifferent to a woman's tears. I ran to the garage, took the hidden bolster from my car & gave it back to her. She immediately gave a cry of joy, with smile, tears, & sparkle in her eyes, hugged her bolster, like a precious gift, far more than the diamond necklaces I had given her before. It astounded me. We made love a few times that night, hugging each other after we washed up & easing into blissful sleep in each other arms, but next morning when I woke up, she was again still hugging that bolster.

Over a cup of milk at breakfast, she explained that she did not came from a well-to-do large family, & had experienced unfairness being the youngest in a traditional Asian family of cherished boys but unappreciated females as a girl at home & at being stereotyped as a female at school. The bolster was a source of comfort to her while growing up since as a mere child, giving her comfort & warmth, taking in her tears & sharing her joys as she drifted to needed sleep each nite. She told me not be jealous over material stuff as I was the one she loved, far more capable than a mere material issue can...

I never knew this side of her, as she was always an intelligent & tough as nails Human at work...

The point is - not all 'addictions' are bad. It is a source of comfort for each & every Human, a momentary comfort/relief zone to retreat to & think issues through thoroughly to move to the next step, BUT it must never ever hurt or harm another including oneself. The moment it does, then it is best to stop such 'addiction', before it harm oneself & others, & society as well...

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Wow! Sounds so scary

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Then keep yourself busy with making money. If you are young in 20s usually you will have this problem. Assume you are really in 20s, just let time goes by as you grow older you will start to be more emotionally stable and can control the need to have girls with you better.

If you like variety then getting a proper gf is not for you. You can just keep chionging and getting to know these freelance girls and date them without attachment. This way other girls wont get hurt. The freelance girls know that nothing serious will come out of knowing each other usually from money sex. Just like making friend go date them if you want but nothing serious, have fun without the attachment.

First time I hear addiction to money. Wow. Haha..

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prevent addiction, self control, do everything in moderation. life is about balance.

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this one i completely agree !

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i watch porn to masturbate twice a day. is that an addiction ?

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How about addicition to accountability to urself n parents, addicition to keep fit eat well and sleep , addicition to reading ?

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if there is a balance of your keeping fit, and you do not harm your body, some people gym too much to the point their body is harmed, you do not read until u neglect outside world, you do no read until you get too short sighted and remember resting your eyes every 30-45mins, there is a balance there so no addiction.

i would define addiction is something u lose control over and want it badly.

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i dont think accountability to yourself and parents is an addiction... what is the purpose of your post reply anyway ? lol

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Damn, cool story bro.

Living up to that Shakespeare name, it was a good read!

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1. Drinking. Hard liquor occasionally is fine.

2.Money. Money is needed for everything, just do something you want to do.

3.Sex. Sex is like food, it's not an addiction to a basic human need.

Lastly, to get or quit all 3 you need discipline.

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Remember do not use credit card for your addiction...

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i also first time. money is the more the merrier. but maybe it becomes addiction when you resort to harming people for money.