Need advice
 

Hi all, how regular is consider regular to have sex with wife is consider normal. I noticed my wife been regretting me on bed frequently. Reason being saying tired. Never a time initiate that she wants it.

I'm 39 n married for 8yrs w kids ... Please advise what can I do? Thank u

Re: Need advises
 

Help out wif watever is tiring her? :confused: I'm certainly not in the mood if i'm tired out.

Re: Need advises
 

Put in efforts in making the ambience lovely for her. Apart from helping her out with chores in the house, bring her out for surprise dinner or just accompany her in doing thing that she likes or interested. Be as loving and as romantic as U can. If she still no mood for it then I think U need to have a good talk with her. But of cox don't do all the above mentioned in a rush like U really have hidden agenda..

Re: Need advises
 

Just do everything for her, even wiping the shit out of her ass. HAHAHA.

Re: Need advises
 

Surely it is cheaper and far less trouble to just book a whore for sex. :)

Re: Need advice
 

She is showing signs of eating outside.

Maybe its time for you to do the same.

Or the next time she says she is tired, you can pretend to give her a massage. Then slowly proceed to make it sensual which will eventually lead to sex. Not 100% fool proof, but at least something for you to try instead of going sexless.

Re: Need advises
 

It depends on the mindset of the hubby. But U r not wrong thou.

Re: Need advice
 

Already past the 7 Yr itch! Maybe already outside fling for the pass 1 year?

Re: Need advice
 

Generally you need to observe your wife in a more comprehensive approach. See whether it is due to work stress or really health reasons
And also observed whether is she paying more attention to her dressings? Be it inner wears or outer wears? If u notice that these clothing started yo get flashy and yet you Don get to see it often? Chances are that you already being cuckoo.

Woman don sudden changed one
They are warmed up by somethings.

Re: Need advice
 

How regular is consider normal?
There is no such thing as normal equals xx number times of sex with your wife in a week/month/year
A lot of factors will affect it, like age, stress, libido, environment, health, work life balance etc
I would rather say normal equals how sextisfied are you and how sextisfied is your wife in your marriage
If either or both of you feels that you are not having enough sex, I would say it is not normal then
Because either or both of you are having the feeling that you are not having enough sex, then there is a tendency to result in extra-marital affairs
Could be an affair, paid sex, ons, fb or even sex related crimes

Not having interest in sex could also be due to side effects from medication, illness or even menopause
Menopause usually happens around 50 plus years, not uncommon to start in mid 40s and there is also premature menopause that can even occur before 40
I don't know how old your wife is, but assuming she is around your age or even older, there is a slight possibility of menopause too since your are already 39
Are you even checking if she is having regular periods?
Irregular or missed periods can be caused by illnesses or stress etc, not necessarily due to menopause
Not having regular periods or not having periods can also be a sign of continuous usage of birth control pills
If she is using birth control pills continuously, but not having sex with you, that is something worrying
If you don't already know all these, you should start reading up and arm yourself with more knowledge about the woman
Given the fact that SG law sides women and divorces usually ends with the guy poorer by 50%, it is always good to know more before you get committed and share the bed with her

If it is not that and she rejects your advances, but give reasons of being tired, and never initiates etc
You could try to observe if it is really because she is tired
Eg. If she rejects your advances and says she is tired maybe from work or whatever, but can every night watch tv or surfs the net like FB or Instagram until 2am-3am, then something feels wrong here as well
If have time and energy for entertainment/socialising, but no time and energy to have sex with you hmm...

If you are certain she isn't eating outside, then what you could try doing is to put in more effort to look after the kids, do the housework, buy her gifts on occasions that are important to her such as birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, compliment her, pay more attention to her, show her more concern, give in to her every now and then, show her a bit more love etc
You make her happy, she makes you happy

I have met guys who treat their wives like baby factories, baby caretakers, their personal domestic helper, personal sex machine and sperm dumping ground, who fail to realise it when their wives started eating outside
If the wife is smart and is eating outside, she will not refuse her husband's advances because this will only arouse suspicions
Similarly, if you are having sex outside of your marriage, will you refuse to have sex with your wife when she asks you for it?
Sometimes even having regular sex with your wife doesn't mean it is a good thing too lol

Re: Need advice
 

Yes normally 1 person in a relationship is tired. Keep talking to your wife honestly about your sex need and hers. Help her out with chores. Compliment her a bit by saying "You know, this man/boy tell me he find you attractive".

My girl say, women generally need a lot of effort/days to make her feelings come back.. Need to keep repeating your efforts!

Re: Need advice
 

Find other people wife and fuck