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A sudden realization why Men "Eat" Outside

Although I am not married yet (process in the planning, unfortunately, one too many snags makes me wonder if everything will go through smoothly and the future), I came to a realization why the husband who appears the most devoted, most caring, most faithful and most importantly.... MOST submissive and loving to their wives will 'eat' outside eventually.

I won't say one party is to blame and neither will I turn it into a woman bashing thread. But there are just one too many reasons why a seemingly 'good' marriage all ends up crumbling.

As this is a guy's dominated forum, "Ladies First" so to speak:

Ladies
1) Ladies would like to think that, "I'd given him everything." but what does 'everything' seriously mean? Money? Time? Emotions you had vented in the relationship?

What a man truly wants out of his wife, is not really time, money or vented emotions. A man wants a woman that is independent but supportive of her husband. A strong woman, but is as flexible as water. Someone who would empathise, respect, sympathise and LISTEN.

2) Ladies would like to be treated like a Princess/Queen. Well who doesn't want to be treated like royalty? But it has all its limits. Men treat you like princess because they want you to be happy. But be circumspect and don't treat that sort of treatment like its god-given and you are entitled to it. It may be exclusive to you (since you are the man's spouse), but do not treat him like dirt and give him a "My Way or The Highway" option in serious matters.

He loves you, but that does not mean he can be abused.

3) Ladies, what is it with remembering all the little details about the one person you hate and hating the person down to his/her grave? Hatred does not solve everything. Consistent negative thinking does not help as well. It will only serve to worsen the problem.

Men say things amongst themselves and crack dumb jokes to remove nervous tension. That's just how Men do things. If you as the spouse wants to dictate and control how your Man behaves in HIS SOCIAL CIRCLE, don't blame him when he decides to eat out because when he paid the whore, he controls the setup and the whore recognises this basic fact that he dictates how he wants to do things and the spouse doesn't seem to understand this basic thought that a Man does things the way he does at work or in his social circle. He doesn't need another woman to teach him how things works as it had worked for him.

3) Do not run him on a leash on his life, his family, his colleagues, his beer friends and his hobbies. Men are humans as well, not your pets. If he wants to be funny, he will be funny even if you are in the house. That's all I can say.

4) Listen to your Man. There is nothing worse than a Man coming home after a hard day of work to face your nagging. Just as you expect him to listen to you about her lousy employer, he's facing the same shit as you at work. If he vents, just listen. You don't have to offer your opinions or suggestions. Just sit there, listen (even if he may be in the wrong) and give him a simple hug, a kiss or just get up to make his favourite food. That's all a Man asks for.

Men
1) Don't treat your woman like a sex object. A real man does not ASK for sex (even though he may feel horny) from his spouse. Your spouse may refuse sex for several reasons, but that does not give you the excuse of eating out! There's always your left or right hand and Uncle Sam's usual forums if you are feeling hot and bothered in your pants.

2) Listen to your woman. Just as in point 4 above, your wife is having a bad day as well. Just sit by her side and listen. Do not talk, do not offer suggestions, do not offer opinions. Just listen. A hug and a kiss at the end of it would be good enough.

3) Spoiling your woman. Yes, its good and cute to buy her gifts. But do not be too overly quick to side her all the time. Whilst it may sound contradictory to point 2, there are times when extremely serious affairs needs to be settled seriously and not a time to throw stupid little princessy tantrums.

4) Respecting your in-laws as you would respect your parents. Ah yes, the classic in-law problem. Of course, there is no room to talk if your in-laws are ABUSIVE towards you. But if they are neutral or great, just treat them like you would towards your own parents. If you are treating them like outsiders, they WILL treat you like an outsider.

P/S: SAME GOES FOR WOMEN ABOVE!