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Originally Posted by littleleroy
Hi bros and Bro SingViet, I'm back! I have been working my ass off the last few months since I found a job. Thus inactive for awhile, sorry always have to turn to you guys for help...
Quoted above from bro SingViet back in YR2010, How do you guys convinced your bx that you can manage finances better than her? To my bx, if I don't give her some allowance, she feels insecure...
Thus, to prove that my current job is able to provide for our son's future, she convinced me to pass $2k of my pay to her for my son's education. Of cos, she have access to the account, as I felt that she could use the money to buy for son and other daily necessity if needed. I trust that she wouldn't misuse it.
Just a couple of days ago, we had a small quarrel. She took my son back to Vietnam and withdrew all the money in the bank $8k. She said she wants a divorce; every time we quarrel. I am trying to take control of the marriage but always Kenna Jiak as she's always threaten to take my son away from me.
Anyone here faced same situation and managed to counter? can advise? I think I Kenna Jiak GAO GAO, now seems like I can't do anything about it. My bank dry Liao. Now she asking me fly to Vietnam find her and she's sorry abt what she had done, but I can't afford to do so, my bank left a few hundred. This month no hit target (no mood to work), no money for next month. 
Okay I admit, indeed I am a sillyporean. |
When i married my wife 10 years ago, my MIL keep asking my wife to take over my finances. My wife asked me a few times, i declined. As i only started doing business in vietnam then, my finances were very tight. I told my wife i hold postgraduate degrees in finance, i can manage my finances better than her. Everyday, i will give my wife a certain amount of money to go to market. I will also place some money in her wallet. We go out together all the time, so i know what she spent on. She can ask from me again when she finishes the money. After coming back to Singapore, i always let my wife have around $100 to $200 in her wallet. My wife also have access to NETS, but there's only a few hundred dollars in that account. She also has supplementary credit cards from me, but with limited credit. All these years, i have learnt to trust my wife but still finances need to be controlled as she has a soft spot for her family. I have seen some Singaporean husband who doesn't give his wife a cent, this is very wrong. Different spouse have different character, but its best to keep finances to yourself and give her some pocket money. Also do not let her know how much you have in your bank till many years later when you feel you can trust her.
I agree with the other brother that your wife has planned this long time back. You got to think over again if you want your wife back. Many Singaporean man are totally controlled by their viet spouse. What their wife wants, they will give. Viet spouse also know how to control their husbands, mostly thru sex. Marriage is about mutual respect, but i have observed, in most cases of viet spouse, the wife and her family is more equal than the husband.
