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Originally Posted by littleleroy
Bro SingViet, how you decline your wife w/o her getting upset and angry? Told her the similar thing but she don't understand and counter back that I don't trust her etc and the whole drama comes back again. Like you mentioned, I gave her some allowance but a little more la $300/mth (she say she need more to buy son's necessity), sometimes less depending on how much I bring back, & access to our joint account for our son's future schooling fees.
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Loving your wife doesn't mean letting her do whatever she wants. If you keep thinking that Vietnamese man are violent, drunk etc and that she surely wants to be with you, then you are totally wrong. Why Viet woman wants to be with Singapore man? A few simple reasons:
(1) They want to get long term pass or PR in Singapore so that they can bring their family or relatives to Singapore to work as hookers to earn money.
(2) They think that Singaporeans are better off than them and can provide for their family back home. Can help them build houses in province, can give their family money etc. How many houses in the villages are built by their hard earned money? Most are built by foreign husbands or Viet Kieus.
(3) They are simply disappointed with Vietnam and the difficult life in the province. They want to get a better life
Most gals are reasons 1 and 2. Those in reason 3 will be better wives. Viet gals know that Singapore man are easily controlled and will do anything to their wish. Its not about treating your spouse bad, but to be firm and also educate your spouse. How much do they know with only a few years of education and being in the village / Vietnam all the time? When you are firm, don't be afraid of them being angry. It takes time to make them understand.