[SEAJ]

If you guys don't mind....!

I've been going to Chang Ping in Dongguan, China practically weekly for years - from the time when there were hardly any foreigners there at all.
Those early days, I'd always been welcoming of newbies and did do a lot of free guiding, arranging Ktv, bbs, sauna get togethers etc. And at first I did enjoy the camaraderie etc.

But as you outlined, as time passes, all the nonsense and taking too much advantage of my good nature just got to me. Worse, all these guys expecting free handouts without even bothering to do any of their own research, reading etc... And getting all huffy when they get no response!!

But then, fortuitously, a friend was in need of employment and I turned him on to "guiding" as a reasonable vocation and I introduced him to all my connections, even helped him negotiate deals etc. I of course never profited from any of his endeavors - financially or otherwise - but have for the past few years just turned all newbie requests to meet up away and instead just refer them to my friend. In fact in the years since, this "guide" industry in Dongguan had flourished and there is now a huge choice of services and I now routinely just tell newbies to pick their own guides.

On the other hand, I still do try to give as much information and guidance on the various boards I belong to - as my way of repaying back for some of the information I do get from others posting such. But Sbf I must say - is unusual in how militant and demanding members are/can be; as if it's their God given right to demand!! And worse, bands of mass zappers, sycophants and guys who think that they are Taikors and entitled to strictly enforce what can or cannot be written! Amazing!

Anyway, I DO greatly appreciate the spirit of sharing that is quite apparent - and enjoyable - in this thread and would like to take this opportunity to specifically thank hurricane88 as well as mutant chicken etc.

I'm after all, personally in bad need of new mongering haunts myself!! LOL

Just my own druthers and POV.

SEAJ