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Originally Posted by purtierist
Bros,
May i share my situation and please give me some advice as i'm very lost atm..
I'm 26 and my wife is 24, we have a hdb, a daughter 4 and a son 2. My in-laws are rich and staying bungalow. We stayed together.
Recently, i found my wife had been cheating on me with a man for almost a year's affair, broke up and now met a new guy. Confronted her and i moved out of the bungalow (my in-laws place) and staying our BTO HDB.
I can't wait to get divorced but my concern is the kids, my wife suddenly mixed with her friends (mostly single mom/divorcee) then chut pattern get boyfriend.
She expects me to wait for her as she told me she needs to find "Herself" and freedom to do all things, to me it's fking bs and childish. Don't know what got into her but i can't wait to divorce since she's ready to admit to her faults.
So bros and sis, should i be stupid to hold onto this marriage knowing i'll be made a cuckold again or just act blur and stay, i play mine she play hers? If i play tio caught in the end is i tio, now i got evidence of her first, what should i do? really vexed.. sorry!  |
First of all, if your concern is your children, try talk her into a counselling session. Do note that you will have to go through it anyway during your divorce process due to the current laws, but it would be good not to go for counselling because it is part of your divorce proceedings, but rather, voluntarily. There must be a spark in your life that led to the marriage. Hopefully, that sparks have a little glow left in it. Divorce signifies the end of an unhappy marriage but also the start of a incomplete childhood for the children.
Now, if the above fails, you have several means to divorce, (1) Unreasonable behavior. You start the proceedings stating her adultery ways, she admits, and proceed with auxillary (assets, children). If she denies, court fight. (2) Adultery. It is not as simple as you claim and she admits. In court, it is about proof. You will need to engage a PI, the PI will settle everything for you. (3) Go for separation back-dated to the date you moved out.
Think of your children, Think hard if your marriage can still be savaged. Countless married men and women sleep around and have affairs.. Why would they do that and risk being shamed and ending up the defendant in divorces? Because they still have love (even a little tiny bit) and responsibility left in their marriage that they could not let go. Some just need someone to give them one tight slap to wake up.
Try your best to savage before proceeding to divorce. At least then, you will be able to answer to your children when they grow up with your head held high.