[bunny]

Well my sharing:

Whiel studying
1 time a week - cos' I am holed up all the way in Jurong (u can guess where) so she visit me once a week there.

Then when start working and not yet married .. maybe 1-2 times a week when we get to see each other.

After married ... still about 1 time week.

Then kids come ... somehow it stretch to 2time s a mth or even 1 time a mth
cos' sway sway kena period then cannot.

Anyway mostly same routine of making love etc.

At one pt in time making love was important ... not getting can change my mood seriously ... and also expectign and hoping for it and then not getting it really got me frustrated.

At the end of the day ... i still love her ... and she gae me many beautiful kids ... so the only thing was the love making (I call sex since shorter ... but actually it is more than sex).

So how to get over it ... not easy.
No matter how I try ... not easy ... PCC etc... go to geylang etc.

BUt i think the important part is not to let the "mood" drag me down. WHen that happens ... I call the freindly OKT, my regulars or go shopping in GL ... hahahaha. If I am unfortunate ... then I will look forward to the alternatives.

From the lady's persepctive (not taking sides), but all that I read ... I also got about the same feedback. SO the reality I believe is that it is indeed true. Except that our urge so strong that we get "blinded" by our own needs. So the advice is to spare some thot for the poor wife. It is indeed tough for her ... cos after work somehow she will still think of the cooking, the washign up , the kids, the supermarket shopping, when need to go to the wet market. Got enuf food left inthe cupboard or fridge .. got bread or not ...etc. etc... so her mind is so busy that she is tired.

Well one trick about it ... through out the week ... give her simpe hugs and kisses, send an occassional SMS to say the u love her ot think about her etc. Spend time to just listen and put your arms aorund her (without attacking her breast ... hahahahah ... that happen to me too) ... when you do enuf of this ...then she will be more likely to be inthe mood. It is no guarantee that it will improve but the chances are there that the frequency will be better.

So now from 1-2 times a mth.. it is abot 3-4 times a mth ... hahahaha. On some unfortunate mths it is 2 times.

Just sharing. In the end those who are stuck inthe situation ... maybe this may help. So just summarising:
- don't "expect" to have sex each time you get close
- if the urge is so strong and you still dun get it from wife ... then go look for alternatives.
- sedn nice SMS to her
- give her nice hugs ...and kisses without the "follow-up" hahaha
- listen to her "complaisn" at work
- be more helpful around the house

I dun intend to leave my wife ... so I have to find a postivei way around it. The above is my own way of resolving the problem. Hope the sharign will be of some use to those reading.
Cheers