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Originally Posted by taker97
Used to run a successful business in oil & gas sector. Knew a fellow businessman man since 2010 who is elderly and we partnered together in many projects successfully. We used to call each other daily, meet weekly twice have dinner blah blah blah, go over to each other houses .I would say he was a very close n dear friend to me.
2017 my business closed down and he too stopped his business. We kept in touch but not as often.Just yesterday I met him for lunch after 1 year and we had completely NOTHING to talk about. The lunch was very formal with alot of awkward silences. Yea we spoke the usual stuff like family, wat am i doing now etc. As we sat and ate our food, i could recollect all the happy and stressful moments we had together.
I felt that we have lost touch and what we used to have or share wasn't there any more. Not that I and he was arrogant, or i owed him money or we had some bad blood.
Its just that the whole relationship was built on business and grew into friendship, but the very friendship became dusted once business is no longer there.
Anyone have a similar experience.
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If you guys have nothing in common other than the business, what do you expect after the business folded?
Its the same for your old school mates, your army buddies, ex-colleagues etc. You had the same goals, worked as a team, and shared experiences. Its easy to see them as close friends at that point in time.
But unless you make an effort to be involved in each other's lives, the relationship is superficial, and will end after your agendas do not align anymore.