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Originally Posted by Penguin23
Your criteria list needs to be reshuffled. A long-term relationship and love, needs to start off with (3) - Acceptance. Without acceptance there can be no long term future.
My girlfriend was born a man, and from the time she was very young she knew that she was a woman inside (ie. she has gender dysphoria). She underwent surgery when she was still a teenager and we met when she was working here in a KTV. When we became serious, I told her that I knew she was not born a woman, and I told her that I accept her for what she is and who she is.
Ever since then, our relationship is at a totally different level, and we can talk freely about purchasing Lamoon, entering Miss International, seeking out a fellow sis at CV just to see what the local scene is like, or discussing mental issues due to the testosterone level plunge after her (his?) testicles were cut off years ago. I always wondered why she was initially reluctant to build emotional closeness but I am glad that I am slowly doing that now with her.
If you just want someone to dote on you and nothing more - then you must be very clear what you are offering in exchange. Sex alone won't cut it, not for long anyway. No matter how skilled you are in bed, in the end the menu is always the same and your partner will eventually feel bored and seek another hole to fuck.
Oh, and it is vital to sort your own mental issues out, ASAP. Are you gender dysphoric, or do you cross-dress for a different reason? Are you a Queer, a Trans, and do you hope to transition someday?
Most guys here just want to fuck a X-dresser or an LB to fulfil a bucket list wish but I am probably one of the few who seek something else.
Wishing you the best. Sorry if my answer and my questions are a bit heavy.
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Hello thanks for your long reply...
happy that you are having a good relationship with your GF it takes great courage and determination to reach to her stage. Please do cherish her. I'm just a cross dresser. You are right about the important criteria on acceptance without this don't even talk about starting anything. I do know how guys think and what most guy wants in return...but maybe there is someone really understanding and nice out there...