[CuteDragon79]

Bro Fallen,

I had mentioned both previous marriages were with SG ladies. Yes, in the past especially with those marriages, I admit I was marrying like that and expected happy endings. This time we both mutually felt its a good catch for the both of us and therefore chop and sign quickly and not let it slip away etc as quoted by Bro Hurricane in his post of Sept 2012. So I understood why things progressed "very fast" in the eyes and minds of onlookers.

We will be living in SG after marriage. FYI, she has NEVER had a passport before, NEVER taken a plane before and NEVER visited any other countries before. She doesn't has any friends/relatives here. We didn't do anything with regards to your point 4.

Yes I'm aware of the numerous stories/case-study of foreign wives fleeing back to their countries due to homesickness and abusive husbands etc. We both knew that she will be sort-of "alone" on foreign land and a whole different lifestyle. I have a few friends with Vietnamese Wives and I will ask my BX if she is alright to mix with them etc. I will tuition her for English and Mandarin to improve her communication with people. Actually the social environment, money-minded and toxic people in Vietnam might be even more harsh than in SG. Don't forget most of them are daily-paid for their income with no annual leave, no medical leave etc in a quest for survival. Singaporeans are mostly still very blessed and unappreciative of what they have. KNS, such as in Dec waited for 1 hour for vaccination also people wanna complain to Straits Times etc!

We had planned to bring my MIL to SG for the 90-day stay (3 times 30 days) every year and we will fly to Vietnam about 3 to 4 times a year so that she will not feel "homesick". We will reduce the travelling plans in future when expecting baby. By the way for your 60 yo friend's case, I guess he is not keen to have a baby and that's why he got together with a 35 yo VB. It is risky for the health and body for that age for pregnancy. I hope I'm not being seen as biaised and offensive. Apologies in advance.

Throughout your inputs, you have raised valid concerns, valid inputs, valid opinions and valid advice. I was already mentally prepared for most issues of what you had mentioned except question 4.

Thank you Bro Fallen