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Originally Posted by acidicavex
TO frank wife that have your mentality are hard to come by it a 2 way traffic. No intimacy isn't everything in a R/S but some male or female are just program differently.
Chatting with some or most i see local ladies especially those in the boomer era tend not to believe in intimacy is part of a marriage life.
The newer era are open to that concept however it also depend on the up bring and family bad ground and mindset. especially this day the ladies out there are equally capable as compare to the past.
Anyway just want to say wife that realise the way to do it and secure their partner you are the 3rd lady. I have seen so far will do that.
cheers have a great weekend
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Interesting views. To me, playing a part of the marriage is the duty of both sides right? We can argue that both husband and wife also have a job and are both tired. So it is fair to split the work.
I feel marriage is both sides. If I start nagging at my husband when he spend on his gadgets, then he will nag at me for spending on ladies stuff. If I start checking his phone, he will want to check mine as well. A lot of ppl think marriage is about 2 person but I disagree. It involves his parents, siblings also. If I start being nasty to his parents, he will start being nasty to mine.
Maybe that is how I live my life. I start doing what I think is right. For example if we go Europe, i will never fail to bring presents for his parents, immediate family. If we travel during CNY, then reunion dinner is a must and we give out all the red packers and well wishes before we fly. At times I self reflect, I would say my husband probably sacrifice more than me. He probably packed lunch/dinner 70% of the time. Paid 70-80% of all the expenses…cannot complain right? Sometimes you start nitpicking then relationship will sour. Every couple sure have conflict one. Sometime I just walk away and go some where to chill….Compare to some ppl, I am already very fortunate. I heard some husband are quite abusive then the wife quite poor thing