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A comment: Alex Kuhl
4 years ago (edited)

I am in the 5th year of a clinical psychology Psy.D. program and have quite a bit of knowledge about female psychopathy and psychopathy in general due to clinical or academic research, clinical experience, and personal experience prior to starting graduate school. I cannot ethically diagnose an ex without a full comprehensive evaluation or someone I had a relationship with. Still, I believe she exhibited all the traits of all the four cluster b personality disorders.

One of the things you could comment on or do further research on is the triadic model of psychopathy. They tend to be bolder or socially potent, fearless, and impulsive than the average person. Anatomically, they tend to have less activity in the amygdala and limbic system, which is the basis of anxiety, morality, and unpleasant emotions. They tend to (not all) have weak frontal lobes, which are involved with executive functioning and long-term planning or learning from experience. This manifests with getting quickly angry at small matters but not big things.

Psychopaths tend to exhibit more intense eye contact and stand closer in proximity than regular people. Also, the transference or gut reaction when first meeting a psychopath tends to be intrigue or a mix of curiosity, excitement, and possibly fear. Those who initially fear them are too intimidated to pursue a relationship with them though, to begin with, because they come off as too sexually potent.

You could have also commented on the intermittent cycle of abuse analogous to why casinos are addictive. The intermittent reinforcement schedule is why it is hard to leave these toxic relationships. An intermittent reinforcement schedule is the hardest to extinguish behavior even in animals even above constant reinforcement and constant punishment.

Lastly, it is common for victims to manifest trauma when the relationship ends with a psychopath and is manifested by being overly obsessed with the psychopath and their future victims to reinforce the idea that they were not crazy, to begin with, or "could have worked harder". This phenomenon is brilliantly portrayed in the show, Hannibal. Psychopaths do a lot of gaslighting to distort one's reality, and victims want to rebuild themselves but have difficulty due to strong feelings of justice.

The best advice is just to walk away and trying not to fix a psychopath, relive what was, or warn the next victim. Chances are this person will warn the next person about you by lying just like they did to you about the previous person. Psychopaths will paint themselves as the victim and every ex as the abuser or "crazy."