I do have children. Maybe I have to learn to think like you, no need talk so much about love and care, just focus on committment and kid. BUt sometimes, in your brain, you tell yourself this, but when you see her and cold attitude, you get very upset and angry too.
I do have good sex withher when we were together before marraige.
Your words are really encouraging and you did enlighten me that fact there one leg in coffin, what more can I ask for now. Maybe whever I get depressed I will come back to read this message to get some comfort.
Also, you are right if no sex lead to breakup and living alone does not mean you can get another one who knows you. Especially with our age.
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Originally Posted by huayingxiong
Bro Dodgekenji
There are many post in this thread that already talks abt women and their behaviour. What u going thru is not unique and happens to many.
Guess u don have children so to me, it will be a easier way to let go without thos part of the burden. However I do sense u love your wife that's being a reason u wanted to reunite and relight the spark.
For me, I have question myself did I ever love her in the first place when I decided to carry on with my next step. My relationship with my wife is not a usual one. Our relationship was build more on commitment rather than love from the very first day. Anyway, I have to move on that's how I get to what is best for me at my age. I can't say I did not have good sex in my younger days yet, I had know that she does not enjoy it as much as I do during those day, and is only now I see that it actually happens to many other women. So is not her sole prob. Is the nature of all women.
For now what I can say is, acceptance, moving on, enjoy the moment. For me, I always think I am a man with 1 leg inside the coffin, so why bothers so much any more.
I recall once there was this lady who told me, get a live. I start to think, by moving out of the house, live alone, is that being getting a life?
I am not rich, yet I had a pretty good life thus far. So, I can only tell myself, heaven is fair. I can't have everything and is not fair to give me all the best thing�� If I am to live this life without having a true love, then be it.
At this moment, maybe u can think abt your self esteem, how to look good.
I am bless with a youthful look. Even at mid 50s, I believe I attracts more attention from women now than before. I believe if u try to take yourself to the next level, u will be able to find life to be more enjoyable. Who knows when u have build up yourself, getting more attention from other women, your wife may get jealous and comes hunting back on u ��
Cheers
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