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Originally Posted by slaughter
..... until the sms i saw in her phone earlier on ...... that guy who sms her is her good friend's boyfriend. her girlfriend's phone was lost and so she lent her the phone to communicate with the boyfriend.
....... but seeing such a msg really worries me. wouldn't you all feel the same?
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Actually its very difficult for us to judge on your case cos we dun know your level of relationship with her and the friends surrounding her... you know best...
Maybe i can offer some areas for thoughts.....
Do you know this friend of her's whose handphone is lost/spoilt? Are there a few of these sms or just one?
Cos if there are a few then her explaination might be justifed cos i dun think a sms exchange will only have one msg in the phone. If its just the ONE msg, then there is a chance that she may have deleted others before you saw the sms. However, if there are a few of these msgs, then it might just be that her friend is really using her phone to contact the guy.
At the end of the day, you should be the one to judge cos i feel you should have an understanding of when she is talking normally and when she is trying to cover things up. We, here in the forum will not know for sure.
Well, i have lived with a group of vn gals for some time and i have noted that they do use each others phones to contact their bfs when their own phones are lost or when the pre-paid values in their SIM cards are low. So there is a possibility that your gal might be telling the truth. So you'll have to assess and judge for yourself yeah?
All i can say is if you cherish the relationship, engaging a PI should be a last resort cos of the consequences related to it. Nothing beats developing a relationship based on communication, truth and trust. It's troublesome and its tiring but thats the way a good solid relationship is built upon...if even now you start to doubt the relationship, it just shows that you still have a long way to go in terms of knowing her better.
Humans have a common fear....and it is that of the 'unknown'. So do spend more time and effort to bridge the current gap and uncover the unknown part of the relationship. Do not let jealously, suspicion and unfounded assumptions to overwhelm yourself. Thats dangerous.
and like Bro SingViet have noted, its not going to be easy as well to get one ....
Well, you're the judge here and make sure you do it objectively and without bias or misguided assumptions....
Cheers!
