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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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Originally Posted by vtec123 View Post
hello brothers

to start of, i have been cheong for quite sometimes , frequent places like HC, TN, KTV..etc
lately have been intro to JC/GL pubs with Viet WL
the stories starts here....
have hear abt JC pubs, but never been there before
i have been always "anti-viet" or rather, to me viet cant speak chinese, therefore comms its a barrier.dont really like to freq jc pubs.
one fine day this pal jio me for a drink at JC pubs.
first time experience was so-so, most of the viet sit with me cant communicate well.
so i was still right in a sense.but the pubs seems to be fine,songs, so we did went back a few times.

on one of the trip to a JC pubs, i came across a SYT viet WL.
to my surprise , she speak good chn. and we all were chatting very well . contacts was exchange
i have been cheong for many years and always remind myself never get inlvoed with real feeling with a WL.
and all this while nothing happen....
by things has changed after since i got to know this viet
this gal took initiatives to sms, and she can text quite good eng.
so it all started here. sending mornign greeting text..blah blah blah.
then came our first outing (purely chatting, not sex transcation as yet) , talking abt herself why she was here.
she told me how poor she was in vietnam. why she needs to work, got a few fam member to feed.
but i never buy her stories ( be it Viet or PRC) , just nob my head and say" yes, yeah". i always on gurad against all these stories.
and then there were subsequent outings ( no sex yet), and i began to develop a feel for her. my guard against her drop completely as she has gained my trust
one fine nite she sms me, and i went to pick up after work.
after chatting a while, i suggest to go hotel, she is fine.
this is the first time we make love, and this is one of the memorabel experinece, very passionate , lots of feels & bonding.after that to my surprise, she dint take my cash, i was like err...this is a service, so i have to pay for it, she say no, " i dont want".
i always remind myself SAF = Sex And Forget.as i dont want to get messy with WL. to me transcation is sex=cash for them
i insisted, but she refused, so i dont forced. i compensate by brign her to shopping, but she dint also buy expensive item, only cheap 10~ 20 dollar shirts.
as the day pass by, i grew feelings for her. sometimes, she would skip work and text me to pick her up after work just to chat.
we dont make love frequent, but feelings develop fast. weird right? think real feelings creep in...(shit)
time came and she got to go back vietnam.
as she been here for serveal years, ( she got regular pal (customer) to send her to airport, think bf lah) so she don allow me to send.
when she was gone, i miss her, i text her VN mobile , we kept in touch.
not long after she went back. i told her i would like to visit her in VN, she said fine.

alamak.. to be contiune, need to serach for jobs openings..
brother pls up me..hahaha

i've been thru this phrase 2 times already, am still going thru 1 atm. While u may enjoy the relationship and kc while it may last, the more feelings u put into this dream, the more hurt and heartache u'll get later. Success stories are too few, and even fewer if she's a hot babe.

Just try to survive thru this, a few more times u'll be able to numb your heart so u'll neither feel love, joy or pain in most relationships anymore. With this condition, it can be a blessing to some but a curse to others.