[Buikia]

er bros,
im in the same dillemma, got to know a WL in the early 20s with a kid(2 yrs old) for a few months, visited her/family once in HCM and fallen in love(vice versa from the way i see it)

So here are the problems:
1)Have some bad debts in the family which can be easily cleared...but afraid of all the up coming debts for the family if i commit.(as with all VN ppl)
Heartbreaking to see her in this trade as with all bros who has fallen for these ladies-wanted to pay off debts for here but big head telling me it might be never ending...

2)Intends to bring the kid over if i commit.

3)Lady is too young and wondering if the mentality/feelings would change over time since im a good 10 years older...

So far, no one brought up the issue of ladies having a kid from a previous marriage and how to cope with this or the acceptance issue. My aging parents would probably puke blood knowing of this....Would appreciate any wise words from here....