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Old 25-05-2009, 10:43 AM
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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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Originally Posted by Buikia View Post
er bros,
im in the same dillemma, got to know a WL in the early 20s with a kid(2 yrs old) for a few months, visited her/family once in HCM and fallen in love(vice versa from the way i see it)

So here are the problems:
1)Have some bad debts in the family which can be easily cleared...but afraid of all the up coming debts for the family if i commit.(as with all VN ppl)
Heartbreaking to see her in this trade as with all bros who has fallen for these ladies-wanted to pay off debts for here but big head telling me it might be never ending...

2)Intends to bring the kid over if i commit.

3)Lady is too young and wondering if the mentality/feelings would change over time since im a good 10 years older...

So far, no one brought up the issue of ladies having a kid from a previous marriage and how to cope with this or the acceptance issue. My aging parents would probably puke blood knowing of this....Would appreciate any wise words from here....
Old wine in new bottle. Just take care of your aging parents. Forget about getting a WL( or ex-WL) as spouse - never-ending problems.