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Originally Posted by Buikia
er bros,
im in the same dillemma, got to know a WL in the early 20s with a kid(2 yrs old) for a few months, visited her/family once in HCM and fallen in love(vice versa from the way i see it)
So here are the problems:
1)Have some bad debts in the family which can be easily cleared...but afraid of all the up coming debts for the family if i commit.(as with all VN ppl)
Heartbreaking to see her in this trade as with all bros who has fallen for these ladies-wanted to pay off debts for here but big head telling me it might be never ending...
2)Intends to bring the kid over if i commit.
3)Lady is too young and wondering if the mentality/feelings would change over time since im a good 10 years older...
So far, no one brought up the issue of ladies having a kid from a previous marriage and how to cope with this or the acceptance issue. My aging parents would probably puke blood knowing of this....Would appreciate any wise words from here....
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objectively, seems like you are taking on a pile of problems for an uncertain return which you hope is love. braddah, i dont know the answer. would say these gals seem to think all things are a deal. she is getting a good deal. refinance her balance sheet, you finance the kid, her family (and perhaps extended family), get to live in sg better place. you are just a component of the package. er so maybe not really love you is still ok for her, only she knows. what do you get from this gal you cannot get from stable proven sg girl? i think local gal dont come with requirement to finance her family and some other man's kid. she may not love you but you know local sg gal loves you because only trading love for love even though she is not as stunning and sexual. which deal is better for you? which deal would a businessman do?