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Originally Posted by Buikia
er bros,
im in the same dillemma, got to know a WL in the early 20s with a kid(2 yrs old) for a few months, visited her/family once in HCM and fallen in love(vice versa from the way i see it)
So here are the problems:
1)Have some bad debts in the family which can be easily cleared...but afraid of all the up coming debts for the family if i commit.(as with all VN ppl)
Heartbreaking to see her in this trade as with all bros who has fallen for these ladies-wanted to pay off debts for here but big head telling me it might be never ending...
2)Intends to bring the kid over if i commit.
3)Lady is too young and wondering if the mentality/feelings would change over time since im a good 10 years older...
So far, no one brought up the issue of ladies having a kid from a previous marriage and how to cope with this or the acceptance issue. My aging parents would probably puke blood knowing of this....Would appreciate any wise words from here....
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Wow your story is a very different from Cybron...Yours are full of aches ie. headaches, heartaches, stomachaces...pocket oso aches...
There are a lot of posts discussing Vn gals having a child previously...from what I remember is "either you can or you cannot accept it and there is no 2 ways about it"...here you have to cope with your aging parents issue...You dun seem to be happy doing what you are doing and that's the most important...unless I misread your intention...so just walk away and search for another tree...
