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Originally Posted by poop_ant
Hi bros, need some advices really.
Now we also decided to get married, i know its abit insane like some bros here. She really can give me the family feeling, everyday cook for me chinese food etc, making me so addicted. After dinner, she will den go to work and i go fetch her home bout 1am. My parents also like her alot, becoz she is capable of doing housework, cooking etc and she is so automatic.
One thing she want me to promise her is, i have to let her work for 1 1/2 yr to clear her family debt and im also very clear she mean it when she say no way she will do anything behind my back. She do not want me to interfere her family problem and wants to settle it all herself. Until now, she did not tell me exactly how much debt her family is in and what causes it.
I know im walking into a dark pit but i really do not know how to give up at this point of time.... I belive its the same when your playing TEXAS holdem, Now im calling an ALL-iN on river which either misery or happiness.
Please advice.
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4 months of relationship is a very short time to consider marriage. Unless got very urgent reasons like shotgun. Or you want to marry her so that you can provide for her and she can stop working as a WL
anymore.
But since she still want to work as WL, marry for what???
Maybe this is your first love, which can overwhelm you with feelings and cause you to make illogical decisions. But you really have to think carefully and look at the decision tree you have now.
The consequences include :
1) Able to see her everyday but also send her to lion's den everyday.
2) Overtime, you may grow tired of her and you are glad you didn't marry her.
Time makes a big difference. Don't rush into things especially if you know you are this kind of person. Marriage should last till you die. Also i hope you are wanting to marry her because you pity her, Love doesn't work that way.