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Originally Posted by SureScore
You are going to be your in-law ATM soon if you are not careful. Let's see how often you can say yes.
I concur with Bro SingViet, always say no to the in-laws. Just give them token for festivals such as CNY, etc.
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Yes, u are right. Its not that we do not wish to place the in-laws to be on par as our parents, but its just that the lower class vietnamese always think that foreigners have a lot of money as money `fall from the skies' in the foreigner's home country. Asking the son-in-law to built new houses, buy new bikes etc are just too common. Then the `what-so-ever relative will be sick' and this and that, how much they can take from the foreigner SON-IN-LAW ATM, they will take.
My way of showing respect is to give token sums of money each year, for example, during TET, Moon Cake Festival and also some months when i feel like giving. Each time, i give around S$100, unless got special occasion like my brother-in-law's wedding when i give 4 million VND as a special ang pao.