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Originally Posted by SneakyBastard
Well, bros & sisters, I am in the same boat. Except that I know for a fact (as opposed to just suspecting) that my wife is chatting up other guys.
She even knows that I know. I know she chats with them with an eye to sleep with them. After a few late nights and some subsequent interrogation, she has admitted to 2 episodes with 1 guy. But I believe it's far more than that...
Anyway I know she's not been eating out for the past 2 weeks (at least), but she's definately been chatting with people, and not being completely truthful about her whereabouts.
It's easy to say divorce, but there are many logistical & practical reasons not to be hasty about that now. Firstly, we've had the flat for less than 5 yes, and I want to at least get my eldest child in the school of my choice. It's a very hot school so I wanna do everything I can to make sure she gets in.
I've actually suggested "chatting together" with her online friends and, if she wants to meet up, "meet together". She wasn't so keen on it...
If you read my previous posts, I'm no angel myself, and the reasons she is doing these things are pretty much as a reaction to the hurt & betrayal I caused her. But I think it's coming to a point where it will get out of hand...
I'm practically suggesting threesomes with her "other friends" in order to placate her & keep an eye on her at the same time...
So how, what do you guys think I should do?
(TS, sorry to hijack ur thread)
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Dear Bro Sneaky Bastard,
You present a rather unique situation. But let me ask you this question... Do you still love your wife and want to make the marriage last? Although kids are part of the equation, lets not bring them in first. So you were a naughty bastard once and your wife is now having the knee jerk reaction. If your answer to my question is yes, then please sit her down and speak to her. Tell her that the nonsense is now over and it is time to look forward and work towards having a happy family again. Tell her that though the trust shared has now been broken, tit for tat and going back to the past will not solve anything. Tell her to work towards the future where your child will go to the school you want and both of you will be there for her graduation and let this be the uniting and binding light.
I have always said that a vase once broken cannot be repaired and it will never be the same. But it can still be a beautiful vase. This is the same for TS too.