Communication...
Do you bros tell or discuss with your viet wife/galfriend things that you are doing (in process) or tell them after it is done (got result).
Yesterday my galfriend press me for an answer of when I do complete my divorce. I am actually in the process of doing it but never tell her about it. I thought that when the deal is done, I will tell her about the it. But she blamed me for not informing her the progress.
She say I always never share with her things that is going on (not only on the above matter). I will tell only when asked.