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Originally Posted by deptrai4u
About this issue of marrying Vietnamese girls... recently i encountered a few good looking young singapore men wanting to marry Vietnamese girls and wants to do it quickly...
The big question is really this... IS THERE REALLY A NEED TO?
Most of the time, i see that it is the guy who wants to go ROM without realising that ROM means Registry Of Mistakes. Where the Viet girls concern, even if they care, we can always give them a deal where we go customary first and the rest later.. take it or leave it. And most of them will just go with it, at least that is my personal experience.
Singapore men please be fully aware that the moment u put the pen to paper, u are on the losing end immediately... nothing to gain out of it. Unless the girl insist on that and no other way out and u can live without air but cannot live without her, then u agree to it. If not, then always go on probation first... how long.... well, 3 years at least! That is the time needed for u to learn about them and open ur eyes big big and see the real them.
And if anything goes wrong, dun be too fast to put the blame on them. More than half the time, the blame is on the GUY. And usually the issue is that the guy did not make an effort to learn about their culture and instead expect the girl to adjust to Singapore lifestyle. Let me just say that it is a lot better and easier for everyone if the Singapore guy adjust to them.
Seniors, ur views pls.
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your views are very good...very similar to mine...dun be pressured by the VB to go into marriage...everything will be out and decisions ae clear if relationship can last 3 yrs or more...womens charter in sinkie land applies after ROM...and the sinkie passport worth 5mil sgd so she bound to gain...
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Originally Posted by fetishboy
Thanks bros for all the advice. I'll settle my divorce first before deciding anything. One more question, my Viet gf is super jealous type, always very suspicious that I have other girls behind her back. Is this true generally of all Viet girls or just mine?
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bigamy can be charged in singapore and fine/jail if guilty...
VB are always jealous...this is their traits...so you can played a jealous bf too...always learned and played their culture...if you want to win her heart...
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Originally Posted by deptrai4u
That is an understatement, the truth of the matter is all vb and their mothers and their grandmothers will at all times suspect the men hv other women.
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haha...experienced tell me that me too always jealous and suspicious of them...example:
when her phone rings...tell her bf call
when she speaks to another men...ask her your bf ha..
when she always busy sms...wah so many bfs ha...
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Originally Posted by SingViet
i hold different views in singapore man having to adapt to vietnamese ways of doing things. If after marriage, the couple is planning to stay in Singapore, then it will be best if the singapore man can guide their viet spouse to adapt to Singapore ways of doing things. i.e. Singapore culture. At the same time, the singapore man can delight the vietnamese spouse by learning their culture at the same time. But if the couple is planning to stay in Vietnam after marriage, then the Singapore man need to adapt to the viet culture, but don't forget to educate your viet spouse on singapore culture at the same time. Its a give and take situation. At the same time, don't always give in to your spouse's request to return to vietnam for the slightest reason. By allowing her to return to vietnam very often, you are sowing the seeds of disaster. If she has married you and is staying in Singapore, she should be making the effort and taking the time to adapt to Singapore. By returning to vietnam very often, she is showing her unwillingness to adapt and you are also exposing her to the high risk of her getting hitch to her former viet bf in vietnam. Show patience, guide her and communicate with her. Show her the interesting part of singapore culture, the tastiness of Singapore food etc.
The marriage of 2 person of different culture needs patience to adapt, needs love to comfort and needs honesty and tolerance to maintain.
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agreed...seen alot of Vn gers cannot adapt to Sinkie culture and food...a lot of VB cannot even adapt to saigon lifestyle when they grew up in province...so always understand their feelings and make them adapt...
ask bro shysaint...his bx cannot get use to sinkie life...even give birth oso go back to BD...bro shysaint, hope you dun mind to use you as an example...^_^