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Originally Posted by SingViet
As for housechores and taking care of kids, i admit i have pampered my wife too much. In Vn, we had a few maids to take care of the kids and housework. Even after returning to Singapore, i still employ 2 maids to do housework and take care of the kids. There was a period of time when i suggested to have just 1 maid, my wife had to take care of the children. She was damm frustrated everyday and we argue almost daily. So no choice, switch back to 2 maids.  |
Singviet, i think you're a minority who can afford the "necessities" of life...
(No sarcasm intended, my family had 3 maids and a chauffeur when we were young staying in Semarang
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Myself... I've already preempted her that she's not marrying into a life of comfort and luxury... I've informed her that she'll need to work to supplement her living expenses... household chores non-withstanding...
However, I think matters like houshold chores are small things... we've already split the chores accordingly.
Cooking > me (3x a week)
Washing up > her (3x a week)
Cleaning Toilet > me (1x a week)
Wash clothes > me (1x a week)
Hang clothes > together (1x a week)
Fold/iron clothes > her(1x a week)
Sweep/mop > her (3x a week)
DIY jobs > me (as needed)
FINANCES > HER
(every single moment)
Kids are later and I honestly believe that she will care for and love them as a mother will... The "right" way or not, it's a matter of differing opinions...
I'm sure we'll be able to discuss and meet in between...
(i.e. she's a firm believer of spoil the child... looking at myself... i'm of the opposition...)
I don't know how good a gauge this is but she cares for the dog very well... :
I'm not saying my kids are dogs though... don't misunderstand...