This thread is really good and has indeed revealed many valuable lessons learned for sharing with newbies liked myself. I do have my recent encounter since March till present as a case study on a unique VB life experience in Singapore to share as follows:-
For KTV VB working in Sing, I learned most are holding short term tourist visa 1+1 month although some are on student pass that can stay 3-6 months and on renewable basis upon expiry, if they are not caught in action.
In end Feb, I was at a popular KTV joint and got to know a 'decent looking' VB in her early 20s whom has been in Sing since early this year. I may say that she is not one of the ordinary type of KTV gals. She is no doubt after quick money and wanna make tons of it just like everyone else, but after getting to know more about her (inside-out
!), I realized that she has a long term vision which is to search for a 'good man' to settle down in Singapore, to form family and raises kids, and to live an ordinary life happily just like most people.
I'm actually 'touch' to learn about her 'ambitious life goal' which is one good reason why she is carrying herself well despite of working as a KTV gal, as she said she would only ('sounds like forced to') go out with customers if and only if there is really a need to make that extra bucks due to shortage of money sometime. She told me that she has to support her study in Singapore as well as family back home. She 'claimed' that she only works during happy hours and rarely works in normal hours due to fear of being caught by authority for working under student pass visa - sounds logical to me and that's why not making enough to meet her ends meet and 'consistently' need more funding from me
.
Initially, I made a mistake by involved emotionally and "almost" fallen in love with her but she is 'smart enough' to tactfully rejected me given reasons that I'm a family man with kids and she can not love me as a boy friend - she can only love single man that is financially sound to get marry with and to form family with in the near future. - I sincerely wish her all the best because I really like/fond her until to-date even though I know she tells lies most of the times - her unique surviving skill as a KTV VB.
She told me 'frankly' that she does not love me but likes me as a good man just like she likes few other good men (young and/or old) because of our monies - sugar bfs and/or daddies a money shaking tree.
I personally feels that we bros can spend reasonable amount of monies to enjoy emotionally and have fun with the VB that we really like as long as we mutually enjoy each others company, but we know that this is only for short term relationship without positive ending. However, this is not the same as the 1 night stand kind of relationship (via internet site) which is without true emotional feeling - like eating different types of plain breads each time
.
I do not foresee a positive long term relationship with my current VB but I do enjoy every single moment being with her even though knowing that it's only for short term basis eg. it could be days, weeks or at most a few months more to be with her. Who knows what happens tomorrow?
As my VB and I asserted each others mature thinking that our relationship is solely built on Money and Sex associated with little emotion attachment since we agreed that we can not and should not attempt to develop beyond this M&S boundary.
No matter how, there is a hidden risk should uncontrollable emotion feeling on either party developed over time to becoming stronger and stronger ... which is something one should try prevent in order to prolong such relationship for a longer period of time if both parties wanted to.