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Originally Posted by shysaint
To me and IMHO, You could have handed the situation in wrong way ... whether or not its works .. u have to understand that it is not the method that counts.. it is that 'THOUGHT or INTENTION' that you have to know ..
dun say they are vietnamese la , if she is a Singapore Gal .. she will also not happy ...
Maybe we can reverse the scenerio ... u use a CHinese method to treat her becasue u are into chinese medince, lets say u give her drink a very bitter medicine .. when u bring the bowl of medicine to her mouth, she push your hand away without explaining ... tell us .. HOW will you FEEL?
I always share that we have to understand the culture how Vietnameses shows their concern to their love ones ... it may not be the way that we want or in the way it is express in our culture .. its their cultures to show their way of concerns to you ,
They are brought up in such a way and in such a method ...
we are brought up in our singapore ways and cultures ..
the QN is "IS OUR CULTURES AND WAYS OF DOING THINGS CORRECT"
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The reason why i push away her hand is because she insist on doing to me even though i repeat again and again that i dont want.When i am sick,i have no strength to explain to her even though i know is her goodwill and thought
Like what bro singviet mention about the fish sauce incident,sometime we must be firm on what we think is correct but i also agreed sometime small things we as a husband have to compromise.