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Originally Posted by greener
Hi All,
I have a matter of the heart to discuss.
I fell in love with a vietnamese WL. As per golden rule, never fall in love with WL. I have fell for her nevertheless.
I knew her for 2.5 months now. Below is a profile write up
I am asking for some advice on the following
1) Is it best to just end this despite genuinely feeling that we are both in love ? Or should I give it a try ?
2) I am still unsure about the huge leap of a cross national relationship/marraige. I need advise on how difficult/easy it is for a vn bride to incorporate into the life here and if they are hardy enough to weather thru long periods not away from their homeland. I am just worried that everything becomes so "home-longing" centric where she is putting her heart more at waiting for the next trip back to visit her parents than on focusing on our relationship/marraige.
3) I am 30 year old. She is 19 year old. Age is no barrier some say. But I would like to collect some opinion from the floor.
Thanks.
Regards
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Originally Posted by Hurricane88
2.5months is too early to talk about love and marriage...
I am very negative about WL..to me they are mostly untrustworthy...
You sure cannot tahan when she sits and get groped by clients...or go to hotel with clients...
You should visit more often Vn...learn their culture...understand the ppl there...plenty of VBs to choose there...especially decent gals..
Only time will tell...why dun you let nature takes its course...just go along and let time gives you the answers...
she is 19 yrs old and her thinking is not matured enough..
Guaranteed you that you have to come here to ask for more answers as time goes by...
dun blame you because long distance relationships is simply not easy and grueling long haul...if you not committed then pls dun take any drastic actions...think not twice but thrice before you take the leap...
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Originally Posted by KangTuo
19 - 23 yo vb are really not matured in their thinking... only want have fun and easily influenced by her group of friend.. worst if surrounded by WL.
yes...long distance relationship very very hard to maintain...
so greener can just faster marry his beloved vb and save her from falling too deep into being a WL. fetch her to sillypore and stay by his side.
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Originally Posted by casannova03
Most important is how you feel and whether you (and her) have the commitment to face whatever together...
everyone's experiences IS and WILL BE different so there is no point asking for too much opinion...
Do you want to live your life based on other people's experiences & opinions? 
Universal Truth: Spend more time together before making a decision... |
Like bro Hurricane have said, 2.5 months is too short to say much about a relationship, even less time to say about knowing and understand a person.
I think u have to spend more time to observe and know her b4 jumping into and committing yurself into this relationship fully. Remember she is from another country, long distance cross nation relationship is not easy to maintain. Also u cant get to know and understand a person much from being separated long. U say she now working some proper job, she told u? Did u go over to see it yourself? Always take what they say with a pinch of salt as u know her not long.
Marrige is not just a 2 person affair, it concerns 2 families, yur family and her family. Did yur family know and consent to this relationship? If not, trust me, it gonna be a tough road ahead with yur parents. Also, how is her side? Family good or not? everyone got job or just lazing around wait for $$ to fall from sky (which may be u in the future).
Like bro KT said, she is still young, can be easily influenced by others especially if she hang with those WLs. Heard of this chinese phrase: 近朱者赤，近墨者黑？ Also, young can still be not stable in their thinking.
Its best to give yurselves some time to know each other better b4 committing yurselves. Follow bro Casannova's universal Truth.
Above are my 2 dongs. Like bro Casannova said, these are all our views and opinions, u dun have to follow what we said. Think carefully and act coherently.