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Originally Posted by Hurricane88
what other advice do you need more from us??
just go there with eyes wide open, ears open, mouth shut and wallet thin...just listen to your gal and discuss what to do in any case...dun be too smart... 
very common to report to local district police that a foreigner is coming to live in a house...if not when police come then sure problem...on the other hand you only stay a few days and not often....why bother to report...unless her neighbours are all scums who will be busy bodies... |
Hi,
Can you help with the following questions
1) Keeping wallet thin. Where is the line ? Does it mean I just go there and let them settle all my meals for me ? Will it be polite or compulsory to give them a dinner treat at a restaurant ? Or is that considered too much ? If her niece and nephews asks for sweets or presents will i be seen as stingy if i do not get them anything . i do get the meaning of keeping wallet thin. It is really not to appear too flashy or wealthy. Perhaps i need a guideline which i hope to understand from you guys here. Also, there may be intricacies of a "dinner treat". I am not sure if will give her family a wrong impression.
2) Keeping eyes open and mind open... this i believe I have a better idea. I would perhaps like to know if there are any outright tell tale signs that i should look out for in a unhealthy family situation. For example : her big brother trying too hard to get close to me to get benefits and stuff. I need some pointers here on what i shoult stay away from.
3) Is bring a lot of goodies from Singapore ( for example bangawan solo etc etc ) a misleading sign of them to think that i am well off ? How should i dress like ? If i am on a sloppy tshirt and shorts and sippers, will it be seen as disrespectful ? Should i always be in shirt and pants and shoes when going around ?
4) Is it normal for the parents to ask me any set of standard questions revolving on my job, salary, family etc etc ? Where is the line ? Is it normal for them to probe into my salary straight away ? And will this be a telltale sign for anything ?
I hope this will be able to shine more light on what i want to gather from the brothers here. from the way it is with my limited knowledge of the country, I am just concerned that i may step on someones tail and get pull away into the jungles and be shot by the vietcongs.
Thanks all for helping. Awaiting responses.
Regards