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A quick diversion here...while you do find women with more spare time on the weekends, they are usually with their group of friends or family and therefore less likely to entertain you...or women with less time on weekdays but are usually alone or with one or two friends whom they are happy to ditch for an interesting time...
I've tried both and the success rate and time taken are about the same...a bit of luck and experience needed to find the most suitable targets...
One more reminder bros...remember your cover story...so you must quite often ask about housing and furniture and restaurants...keep thinking that you will be moving there soon and those questions will keep cumming...
Plus it's very easy to flaunt money here without ever mentioning money too...keep checking out the 60" LED T.Vs, high end HiFi and cars (keep these ones around the mid range level and keep it sporty...you are not stupid rich, remember?). Add questions like; should I ship mine over or buy a new one here?...
I once made a girl who I only just met that afternoon say out loud: 'wonder what it's like to make love on this bed.' then she blushed...what happened was that I got her to lie down to try as I was checking out a Tempur memory foam mattress which cost > S$8k (that’s roughly her one year’s salary)...engage the sales person and ask for delivery schedules and cost etc...make it sound like you are ready to put down a deposit if only you knew when you will be posted to Indonesia....
If you do this right and she ends up being with you....she is going to adopt the mentality of 'let go long line to catch big fish' and will not bother you too much about the small stuff, like spending money on her during the courtship...
...still, occasionally buy her a handbag or cosmetics or flowers...after all, you ARE banging her...be a good boyfriend....
Alrighty...Let's move on to phase four...
Phase four - While chatting...find whatever excuse to get around the mall...go to one shop and talk a bit there...go to another place and have an ice cream with her...go to yet another place to check out some office supplies....go to another place to have an ice tea....and so on and so on....
The idea is to give her the impression that she has known you a long time...make her mind go: wow, look at all the things we have done together...and the places we have been to together...you and her now have a history of being together....
If you think she is fairly comfortable with you...be brave...ask her to suggest another mall to buy something you know will not be found in this mall...keep her moving and take her with you...(checking out Harley bikes is one of my favourite here...if she's not a biker chick, a home depot type store will be good...I’m a man and need my tools…plus, I just need that BBQ pit in my new place or I cannot survive.)
In an hour or two...she will think you are a long time friend and will feel nice and comfortable around you...
If she needs to go back to the office during the day...ask her to meet you to help you out after her work...by this time, treat her as you would your good friends...no need to be too paisei in asking her to meet you...think of it as her obligation as a friend to accompany you...85% of women will be too polite to refuse...and those who will refuse you are likely to be more headstrong and will probably also refuse your advances in the later phases...so it is good to weed them out now anyway...just keep smiling...a lot...
(When she's gone...you're still in the mall...is it really so difficult to convince yourself to start mission 2?? Surely there are still plenty of women in that mall?!?!?)
NOTE: These phases may take longer than one day to go through...it depends on her comfort level and of course her time available....
Once you have her walking around with you...go into phase five...this may need to inter-change with phase six if she is not ready for phase five yet...
Phase five - find a place where it is acceptable to hold hands for a while...crossing a road, walking through a big crowd of people, climbing up steeper steps...whatever works...a drive through at the front of a mall is great for this...make sure there is a car coming your way before you cross...keep talking to her or keep her talking to you...gently take her hand and cross the road with her...obviously before or after the car passes...
Keep talking as you do this (or as she is talking to you is better)...don't make it like a premeditated move....don't stop, look both ways then grab her hand...that is too obvious...be very casual here...talk talk, take her hand, talk talk + walk across...
She will usually be too polite to push you away...but check the struggle level...if only a tiny bit...keep holding her hand...
If moderate, let go and walk a bit faster, then two steps later, take her hand again and say 'oh, be careful' or 'don't want to lose you'...she will most likely be on fairly high heels so to walk faster mean she needs external support...
If the struggle is quite severe, let go and apologise...'sorry, I just wanted to protect you'...
Once you have crossed over, let her hand go...you just wanted her to feel your hand...believe you me, she will remember the feeling...
Keep talking and asking questions to make her talk to you...
Phase six - declare that you are hungry / puckish / thirsty...let's have lunch / dinner / supper / dessert / drinks...whatever suits the time of day...don't ask her...just declare it and ask what she would like...this way, even if she doesn't want anything, you can simply say...ok, Let me quickly grab a coffee, ok?... and bring her with you...
Again, by this point, most girls will be too polite to refuse…after you sit down, discuss the menu with her and find a way to order something that will keep you there for at least half an hour...oh, what the hell...order something light for her too…
If phase five was not a success before this point, try it again after the meal...
If it was a success, then you move into phase seven during the meal...
Phase seven - occasionally touch her hand as you talk...don't hold on...just touch and pull back...but do it more and more often as time progresses....
Even if phase five was not a success, you can try this phase out during the meal...just do it a lot less...
If possible, move to another place for dessert...remember the golden rule...the more places the better...
My favourite thing to try is to feed her…at first, take her fork or spoon, ‘hey, you have to try this’…once she accepts that, do it once more with her fork or spoon a bit later…the third time…I just casually offer her food with my fork as we chat…almost like I wasn’t thinking…if she opens her mouth to receive it…very very good sign bros…phase seven is steaming along nicely…see if you can repeat it at least once more in a few minutes.
If she is not refusing your phase seven...then it's time for phase eight...
Phase eight - Find something about her to compliment...'Hey, you know what? I just noticed / has anyone ever told you…how beautiful your eyes are.' or 'hey, you have such a wonderful laugh.'... make sure it is about something anyone can see…
Don't linger on this though...once she thanks you or ignores your compliment...talk about other things again...back to your 10,000 questions...do not give her the time to wonder if you are trying to butter her up for slaughter later…yeah well, it was just a passing comment…
Ok bros...let's take a break...that was a lot of information to absorb...
(to be continued)