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I share mine..

Originally Posted by SingViet

I have been reading in amazement how various sinkie brudders here have been:
a. rushing to get officially married to a vb
Many sinkie man think that getting married to them fast means saving up on commercial sex, this is totally wrong

good catch so fast fast marry before more suitor come.
SV, what make you come out such comment?
seasoned chiongster will say everyday eat rice is boring.. must eat pho, hu tieu at times... they will never save on commercial sex. unless the sinkie man 1st come out to play and get hooked.

b. buying gold and jewellery to please them
My wife have been with me for over 9 years, i bought some gold for her when we got married, but sold them off when i was damm broke 2 years after marriage. For the last 7 years, i have only bought my wife small diamonds on 2 occasions. When she wanted go get gold, i will disapprove. Its really stupid to buy them lots of gold as it will land up in their mother's hand and get sold off.

I only buy diamond for ROM and gold for wedding. Thats all.... my bx more practical... she goes for $$$ the 4 gold i bought at wedding, my bx changed 2 to white gold/diamond to wear daily. The other 2.. i never check... also don't bother.

c. working hard to move into new house and even worried about little details such as a Welcome Back Home signage!
its good to be romantic, but better to be more practical. No matter how romantic one can be, the VB will still go away if you cannot feed her well .

i am working hard to get a new house to move in with my bx. In the meantime, stay with parents as HDB took sooo long to process the paperwork for the transfer of my house to my ex-wife...
little romantic details? nah.. my bx very practical.

Let me just list a few things here that is Guarantee to make ur life with ur VB into a big FAILURE (and not success).

1. Give them as much money as they ask for.
I normally give my MIL 2 million VND a month, but have not given her any since 6 months ago as she makes me TL. Just last week, sent her 5 million VND for Mid Autumn festival, but i know i will not send her any for the next few months ago. No way can anyone satisfy these VB and their family's crave for money. Save for your future and educate your VB to think for you and your children.

I give as much as my bx asked for.. $150 ---> $200 ---> $300 monthly when not married yet. Now still continue give $300 but is to her parents monthly. One of the day, she auto tell me that she told her parents that after give birth, we will only give $300 once every few months. Her parents in province don't need so much money. Bro and sis also support. One old man in USA also support her parents as they helped him long long time ago..

Once my MIL fall sick and need go for operation.. my bx also never ask for my help. she say that insurance covered a huge portion.

2. Treat them very nice, peel the prawn, open the door, push the chair... etc
My wife peel prawn for me, set table for me for dinner. Its not advisable to treat them the way you will want to treat a Singaporean lady.

The power of VB... make you a king at home. Even when i bring other vb go eat steamboat buffet, I make sure they cook and peel prawns for me.

3. Worry very much about impressing them and letting them know u really care about them and will do whatever they ask u to do.
I do not want to impress my wife nor her family. Its the most stupid thing to let them think you are GOOD and also LOADED. You are digging your own grave if you do that.

I also never impress my wife or anyone of her family. I only make her worry of my ECA.

4. Sending them for various training courses... English, Chinese, Hair dressing... etc etc.
My idea is very simple. If you cannot afford to feed them, then don't marry. But if your wife has certain skills before marrying you, then it may be good for them to work in Singapore to earn their living. I will not want to train my wife up till she's very capable, because its going to be damm dangerous.

I am think of sending my bx for english or chinese language course or cooking classes.... preparing for future. I will never let my wife go out work..anyway no way she can as she got language problem. Her full time work is housewife. I do not need to train my bx.. she is already very capable but no danger posed to me.

5. Being 100% loyal to them beyond any reasonable doubts.
I only started to become very faithful to my wife 6 years after marriage. This was after she showed me her greatest concern and love after i had a major spinal operation. I feel that being faithful works both ways. My wife has earned my trust and thus i give her my assurance.

Till now.. i am loyal but not faithful...bx already accept the fact that i womanize alot... every now and then she will comment that womanizing is my hobby. my bx earned my trust long time ago... she also trusted me alot for few years until I got caught for many things which she now accept the fact that I am a man and man got needs...