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Re: Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

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Originally Posted by SingViet View Post
I think i mentioned before in this thread that its a wekk known fact amongst local viets that many VB who married foreigner man, will look for other lovers when they are back in VN for holidays. Even the immigration officer at the airport mentioned that to my wife before. Many bros may say i am a bit extreme, but without staying there long term, you will not know what these ladies can be up to behind yr back. The worst may not happen to you, but it has happened to lots of other Singaporean or foreigner man who married VB. As a normal singaporean man, we will think that once a VB has a child with us, her heart will be with us, the probability of her swaying is almost zero. But this is surely the wishful and innocent thinking of us. To them, a marriage is nothing but a piece of paper. They know most foreigner guys will not trust them and the only way is to give birth to babies to reassure these foreigner man. But to them, having baby or not having baby is no difference. If they want to have fun, its a simple as ABC in VN. You think about it, if yr VB have you in the heart , will she want to go back VN to stay for a month of two every other month? No matter what reasons she has, this is not right. You can ask yourself, if you stay in VN and love yr bx a lot, will you want to come back singaopore every other month, stay for a month or two and leave yr bx in vn? When i stayed in VN last time, i come back Singapore every 12 to 15 days for business, and max i stay in Singapore is 4 days and i will return to VN to be with my bx and my gals. Infront of you, the VB may be NORMAL, and you may think that she still make love to you often, so nothing is wrong. VBs know it too. If they have a lover there and she stopped making love to you, you will suspect and she still need you to give financial support, so making love to you often is seriously nothing to them. Making love to them is like eating pho, nothing special. So we, Singaporean man, got to open our eyes BIG BIG and try to read the VB's mind. Not to be overly suspicious, but sometimes, some tell tale signs are very clear. Stop denying yrself to tghe truth, but protecting ourselves is really quite impt.
That is what i do for this past six years and until now then i ready for a baby with her

To other people,i might sound extreme but to me,protecting myself is more important.Whether later stage is go wrong or not,nobody know but at least i have clear first few stages of knowing more about her,learn how to mantain our husband and wife relationship after marriage and etc

Past six years having been a tough learning stage for both of us but at least we learn from each other,whether baby will help us to bring our spouse relationship to clear our further spouse relationship obstacle or prevent us from clearing.Nobody know