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Originally Posted by banana81sg
not sure if i at the right place to ask.......lets see
i get know my gf throught internet dating......knw her for comin to 2 years....been hcmc n met her n family afew time
the problem is till now i still feel i dont knw her well ( dont know where she work, her friends etc) as she seem doesnt like to talk abt things when asked, like secretive......becaz of this sometime even she answer, she make me feel she lying. is it viet girls are lke this?
Nw she asking me to marry her. should I? i mean i do like her, but becaz of above issue, i worring abt it especially our future.
as mention, i know her through net, i thought of setting up another account to test if she really into me. Is it a good idea? my friend say what i think of doin is bad as if she finds out ( though i doubt unless i tell), she will not be happy, in fact no girls will b happy. But i wish to try n test her to put my mind at ease before commiting anything.
just seekin some opinions.........especially bros with viet bride........good /bad doesnt matter tks
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Don't you think you should get to know her better before rushing into marriage? When she is secretive about her work, it shows that the job is not a `normal' job or maybe, she is jobless, living off foreigners.
Marriage is a lifetime committment. Its not just about living together and having sex. Lots of marriages between Singaporean man and Viet spouse break down just a few years into the marriage. Most of them do not know the gal well and also do not know their culture well. One example will be the number of relatives of viet spouse flying in and out of Singapore, on the context of taking care of the viet spouse children. Think about it, buy air ticket, salary and gift of cash and presents when they go back, isn't it more expensive than hiring a maid here? But viet spouse do not agree, always cite reason its better for their mother to take care of their children. The main reason is that they want some money for their mother / relatives. They take care of your kids, speak TV to your kids and you will realise that your kid speaks TV most of the time and is detached from the norm in Singapore. When its time for school, language barrier will be another problem.
I have also known of tertiary educated Singaporean man who changed their lifestyle totally after marrying Viet Spouse. They become like a `viet farmer' living in Singapore. Started to seat on the floor to eat, drinking lots of alcohol, late for work daily etc. From a bright young man become a typical province viet just because he married a viet spouse. Reason given? If do not give in to wife, no sex given. Haiz....
This is just one of the examples. Lots of differences when staying together. So better be prepared to CHANGE after marrying your viet spouse. Spend more time to know her better before committing.