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Originally Posted by littleleroy
Hi bro, paiseh i nv eleborate, its like brunch party with the villagers. In the night dinner another small party, like you said its like tentage. I didnt get back the ang pow, my in-law kept them and said most of the villagers didnt give ang bao. :S  |
sorry to be too straight bro,but seems like ur in laws took u for a ride and they cant be trusted.i have been in Vietnam for a period of time already..i attend and also help out in the wedding countless times..its true that people in country side might be poorer if compare to people in big Cities,but trust me,in kinds of calculative,they are as smart as people in big Cities.they know who are those that can afford ang pow and who cannot.every guest invited will have an invitation card send to them in an envelope with their name on it..that envelope is meant to be the ang pow pocket so that the receiving side will know each guest give how much money.people in country side usually gives between 50k-500k depending on their relationship with u.for my own case during my engagement,my wife's aunties of 10 each 500k except for 2 which give 300k bcos not that well to do..majority of guests turn up give 100k while those having a closer relation with the family gives 200k.did also receive a handful of 50k.so from this figure u can roughly calculate how much ang pow money ur in laws collected base on the number of guests invited.
i am not sure when u married ur wife,but i presume should be just within this 2 years..$10k of dowry is around 160 mills Vnd if base on exchange rate 2 years ago.plus in the ang pow money and money which they ownself pocketed(which i am very sure they did),ur in laws will have about 200 mills Vnd..this amount is more then enough to set up a zi char style shop in Hcmc so not to mention back in country side..and since u have already given them a hefty sum for them to do a business for their own living,there is no need for u to give them monthly allowance again.maybe just a token of $100-$200 out of good will on CNY.
if ur wife insist on giving monthly allowance to ur in laws,then its time for u to explain the situation to ur wife.