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Originally Posted by pitabooom
my second hope would be she'd wake up her idea and be that kind of Mother that would live up to basic standards instead of a mediocre one.
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What is lacking in a marriage is often COMMUNICATIONS. No mortal is perfect, nor think alike, or can read minds. Thus it is important to communicate with each other & spend quality time together. Marriage is a shared journey together.
While we mortals have no super power of the comics or movie kind, we DO have a gift - the power to influence another. It is not magic. It is just simply communications & patience, to steer one from another's path. It will not work overnite, but only over time.
Understand her needs & wants, & understand yours as well. A thousand battles fought, a thousand won, once you can slowly, at the right moments, not during heated arguments, & over time, you would have guided her to a better path for the future of your family.
We can easily give up, as most do, but it comes with consequences of practical realities over singlehood or single parent. There is no good or bad consequences, but realities to accept & for sustainability of life till old age. The journey of life is far better shared than alone.
No being promised life will be a bed of roses daily. There will always be challenges daily, to courageously confront & not hide, or cover it under the floor mat, in order to live not just for oneself, but loved ones too.