There is no problem that cannot be resolved. Nothing is impossible. It only takes mental strength of Will for action needed.
A)Problem with wife:- a companion for life is either an asset or a liability.
At face value, she looks like a liability to the family - she does not love you or her child, & is dissatisfied with seemingly every effort you put in the family to hold it together.
B)Problem with husband:- to be fair, it's only your side that is heard, & not her side of the story. It takes 2 to clap.
Women have biological issues that affects her psychologically, which men do not go thru, & thus men must understand what she is going thru. It is the menstrual cycle EACH month, & thus the mood swings. Some women handle it well, but most do not, & need an understanding man to help her thru.
When she agreed to marry you, she had certain expectations of you for a future together. One of them which most women want is companionship, in the ideal sense - 9 to 5 job, decent salary, cosy after work hrs together, weekends spent in leisure & an annual vacation.
As you hold a credit card, it proves you have an income above $3k a month, with savings for future, thus a decent salary. However, when you take on 2 jobs, it means she longer sees you, left alone at home after work hrs, space for mental suspicions to grow on what you are actually doing outside of home, even if no hanky panky on your side.
Daughters are often closer to Daddies than with Mummies, probably because men are more indulgent, & often not at home to be critically watching over her than the mummy, & misunderstandings happen with the mother, which eventually alienates both, & could be the cause why your wife may not be close to her daughter than the father.
Solution:-
Talk is cheap & easy, but sadly, it's the only solution left to save the marriage. Divorce is easy even if messy, but the pain & emptiness will be a scar for life.
Find a time when you & her mood are better, sit down & discuss about the future. Return back to the starting point when you met & decided to get married, & find out why - what made you commit to each other. Find that love that still resides deep in your hearts, & use it to rekindle that flame to light the path for the future of your family.
Financial security is critical, but it is NOT everything. Most family can do without many material things in life & yet find happiness with each other. Strategize your family's financial need - discard that which is beyond your means, & manage that which you day job can offer - WITHOUT taking on another job so that you will have more time with the family & with her. Being married is NOT being single all the time without a partner to share the day.
Such efforts will NOT be overnite change, but only over time if each give other space & time to change. We Humans can no longer change the past, but we can still change the future, if the will power & love for the family still exists.
All the best to you.
