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Originally Posted by lamelame76
Im in my late 20s and I have a gf of 3 years and we recently BTOed. We rarely have arguments, and our personalities suit each other a lot with frequent bantering.
The issue lies within the bedroom. We rarely have sex (probably once in a few months) as I just do not have the mood for it, even though I genuinely care for her and really like spending time with her. She herself doesnt watch porn and the few times we do have sex, she doesnt really turn me on, doesnt do blowjobs and I cant sustain an erection past about 2 minutes unless I penetrate her. The latest time we had sex, we did it outdoors to sustain my excitement but I dont think it is a workable solution in the long term.
I'm thinking a possible issue might be I am addicted to porn. Every day I get home from work, I scroll websites like SBF, Pornhub etc. as a habit. From outdoor fucks, hidden cameras, local leaks, i search for all these every single day. Another issue might be stress related - I have been dealing with anxiety the past year and although I can hide it with friends, I end up with insomnia and that seemed to coincide with my reduction in sex life with my gf.
So just need some advice - am I addicted to porn? I cant bring myself to stop this habit. Or i may just have erection problems. But looking at the bigger picture, I am more afraid this will cause cracks in my relationship. Occasionally I go for MLs for release (even then this effect seems to be wearing off) but I am more afraid this could end up with an affair (which is a totally different story) in the future. I love her, but the sexual part of the relationship might be a ticking time bomb and I feel paranoid by it after reading stories on this forum. Even now, there are times when I have thoughts like "if only Im unattached, I could try attempting to fuck around" even though I have neither looks nor money.
Has any bro here encountered any similar situation? If the above post makes you think that I am confused and/or paranoid, thats because I am.
Thanks in advance bros.
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Hi you enjoy her company but too bad she doesnt sextisfy you. Are you harbouring a lot of thoughts to fuck around with many other variety of girls? I think you are when you say 'if only i am unattached'.
You have to make do with what you can get because there is no 100% satisfaction, give and take here and there in relationship. It is who you choose to go through the hardship with. Relationship not always enjoyable and a lot of struggles. Dont think of relationship as easy, it is difficult.
I don't know for you easy to find gf or not if you let go of this girl so you may have to take the risk if you think she is not right and you want to look elsewhere.
Just sharing for me i took the risk to let go of a gf i knew i only want her for sex few months after getting attached. We broke and so far i think i'm glad we broke. The choice i took was very risky because till now i am still single and unable to get a gf. So make a choice and stick to it.
Tell your gf you need her to satisfy you in bed and she needs to become good at sex. If not your marriage life will be very unfulfilling sexually. If it fails both of you need to talk to sex doctor.
Another point i highlight is that is it your job is very stressful? Is your job making you very stress and thats the reason why you need to search porn fetishes to release your work stress? I am thinking your job is very likely the reason behind your continuous search for porn.
Pls up my points if my reply is helpful