Convincing my wife for 3some

coolnette · #1 01-08-2012, 10:47 PM

Dear gentlemen,
me and my wife have been married for 7 years without kids. I have the fantasy of threesome and recently managed to convince her with our friend a guy. We managed to proceed smoothly initally but when the 'critical' moment comes, she rejected.
Im not too sure if she feel hurt and talking to her again she seems to hide her feeling about this. Im quite confused when we are doing as a couple again after the 3some, she fantasize being in the threesome or gangbang. So im not too sure if i should propose to her again another session or just forget about everything.

Women

ahwee73 · #2 02-08-2012, 09:50 AM

Hi TS, to me I thk is the chinese moral thing incur in her mind.. U hv to loosen her out, like get her tipsy and release her tension. Partly oso have to depend your another partner has any click with her.. It important, as she might want him badly.. Mood thing..

So TS, all the best..

Bluebullet · #3 02-08-2012, 10:36 AM

Hi TS,

I think your wife is not comfortable with the guy. Either they knew each other for too long a time or there is no feel at all.

I particpated in a 3some before. It was my colleague's wife. Samething, they were childess and boring. they wanted some fun. Initially both she and I were very shy. After some soft swing and easy talking from my colleague, we started to undress, were all naked and things went on well. In fact, we met up twice after that session. Now they have 2 kids and they are vey busy and we are still friends.

coolnette · #4 02-08-2012, 03:25 PM

Hi,
thanks for the reply and yes its true that we know the friend for about 10 years. Childhood friend. Hm..maybe its a wrong partner to start with. We did have some alcohol and i did sweet talk my wife. We don't really feel shy when naked in front of each other, we did some soft swing, so I though its ok for her. She stopped when he wanted to go into her. I should be more sensitive and understand how she feels if not this will remain as a fantasy

otamay · #5 02-08-2012, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by coolnette

Hi,
... yes its true that we know the friend for about 10 years. Childhood friend.

I think he is too close for comfort, should try some others

ahwee73 · #6 02-08-2012, 04:22 PM

Yup.. I think it will work out well if manage slowly with her mood.. She will like it..

trendsetter · #7 02-08-2012, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by coolnette

Dear gentlemen,
me and my wife have been married for 7 years without kids. I have the fantasy of threesome and recently managed to convince her with our friend a guy. We managed to proceed smoothly initally but when the 'critical' moment comes, she rejected.
Im not too sure if she feel hurt and talking to her again she seems to hide her feeling about this. Im quite confused when we are doing as a couple again after the 3some, she fantasize being in the threesome or gangbang. So im not too sure if i should propose to her again another session or just forget about everything.

Women

She loves you and only want to give herself to you and you alone!

freezetheDB · #8 02-08-2012, 05:23 PM

TS maybe should just start with your wife giving the guy a blowjob while you doggy her? don't insist on intercourse first

see how it works from there

xxFTOxx · #9 02-08-2012, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by otamay

I think he is too close for comfort, should try some others

Lol meaning u??

slicker · #10 02-08-2012, 10:43 PM

Ts, go to the swinging/gangbang thread, look for the senior swingers and ask for their advice. It will definitely be more convincing to hear from them as they have been there n done that. They even counselled quite a number of couples to start so call soft swinging. One of them u can look for will be the undertables couple... Correct me if i m wrong. Hope this helps!

coolnette · #11 02-08-2012, 11:07 PM

Tks for all the replies and I guess i will have to ask my wife to 'open' more

i mean to be more openly on how she feels. We watch porn on 3some,GB and been talking for quite sometime. She told me once that she likes the attention from guys in 3some /gb. Being inexperience and with the advice from you guys, im wrong to allow the first session too fast with the 'intercourse' which might make her feels uncomfortable. The smooth foreplay and soft swing with our friend gave me a wrong impression that she is comfortable until....Poor friend and till now I have not contacted him

coolnette · #12 02-08-2012, 11:11 PM

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Originally Posted by slicker

Ts, go to the swinging/gangbang thread, look for the senior swingers and ask for their advice. It will definitely be more convincing to hear from them as they have been there n done that. They even counselled quite a number of couples to start so call soft swinging. One of them u can look for will be the undertables couple... Correct me if i m wrong. Hope this helps!

Oh...I have seen their thread and they are professional level

sta1100 · #13 06-08-2012, 10:16 AM

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Originally Posted by trendsetter

She loves you and only want to give herself to you and you alone!

yeap correct, some wife only want to make love to thier man, not other. unless she super open minded

lustdevil · #14 06-08-2012, 12:16 PM

Im not a saint I do play ard but I jus don't understand abt ppl trying to do a threesome with their wife. The emontion hurt u have scar on yr wife u would not be able to feel. Try to understand yr partner do not have it to fulfill yr personal desire. She might have agree to it but jus she love u n U wanted it.

3someking · #15 06-08-2012, 12:35 PM

try to ask ur wife wat abt asking her female colleague along.
so it will be a mff tarma