Need help

[Mavyungt]

Hi, this is my first posting after reading so many stories from other.

I need some help and advices from the brother and sister here..

I have gf for more than 10 years... I wanted to ditch her long time ago but very difficult... Whenever I don't meet her up, she will keep calling and text me, call my wife, wait in front of my house or to a certain extend might go down to my office to wait for me.. Is very difficult to avoid her.. I don't love her at all and she refused to let me go. She is sending numerous text to threaten my family. To avoid this to happen, I seem to be obliged to answer her phone calls and dine with her if she catches me. I'm under tremendous pressure and couldn't do my work properly. She knows where I hang out usually and will be going to those places to look for me. Everytime we met we don't talk nicely and ended up quarreling. If I have oversea trip she will fly over to see whether I have any woman there or not. She keeps on telling me don't ever think that's easy to settle her.. She knows where my children work and their whereabouts... If I avoid her too long she will track who left the the house by what time. She is very jealous if she knows I'm out with my wife and will keep calling her especially middle of the night. Wifey didn't say much and I dare not ask for details.

I'm so lost.. Really don't know what to do... I really feeling miserable and there are times we argue at public.

[Hershey12345]

First of all, does ur wife know abt ur history with her? If yes, then find ways to solve this issue. U can apply for restraining order. Or u can always enjoy both women if ur gf doesn't mind.. What is her expectation of u? Does she expect u to leave ur wife or what? This problem can be resolved easily. No need to be stressed abt it👍

[Hershey12345]

Honesty is the best policy bro.. Ask urself which woman do u wan?

[maxsee]

I thought there is anti-stalking law in place liao...file a police report la....

[sunhuan-con]

If you are a married man , wanna play must be prepare to face such consequences. Anyway she is with you for 10 years , put yourself in her shoe do you think is fair? To woman she had wasted her youth on you. Talk to her nicely. I worry might end up in fatal attraction as woman hatred will grow strong.

[Greendevil]

Such woman has no restrain on her even with restrain order. I dont think the issue is whether your wife know or not as it seen that she knew it and I presume that your wife limit is 'Dont bring woman home." It is more of the haressment and face that you are concerned with.

Honestly, in Singapore context, there are very limited you can do about it. In Msia, ask them and they will ask you; DO you know the news on the Mongolian woman that blew to bits

1. If you can, moved your job or your office (If you are the towkay), and has a security to remember, dog, cat and this bitch not allow.
2. Also, try moving house, preferly condo as it come with security at not any Tom Dick or Harry can come up your door to harress your family.
3. Change your mobile and your wife mobile.
4.Switch off all social media like FB and instragram. Make it clear YOU ARE DITCHING HER. SG mostly is qi shan ba er. or bully the good, fear the bad. Let her know you are not afraid of her and prepare to have a long endurance battle till she wear down as she will resort to all means to find you, talk to you and etc.
5. Spend a bit of $$$ to get people to counter haress her. Have people calling her in the midnite and etc, scold her and tired her out. a tired/sick person wont be able to stalk you so well.


there is always a limit to everything. Either she wear out or you wear out, survive of the fittest. And don break the laws. If she does, call the police so that they can help to lock your problem away in Changi for some time.

[damong777]

Worse case make a police report. Clear things out w ur wife and family. And make a call. Stand by it

Think ur gf in her mind think she is ur wife

U need to be strong to stand up and say enough is enough.if not it w not end.

She need professional help to cope as her behavior are signs of on the edge.

[Mavyungt]

Hershey12345
Wife knows about that and pretend don't know anything

Maxsee
Went to police earlier and police said no law for harrasment in Sg. What I can do is to engage a lawyer see it helps. I walked in to police station to stop her from following me..

Sunhuan-con
I never stop her from going and she knows me very well and attacking my weakness as I don't want public to know this. She even told me don't ever think to settle me so easy. She is demanding for a big sum of money

Greendevil
Yes you are right what I can't stand is the constant harrasment. She will keep calling me until those important calls unable to call thru. these few years she is getting very jealous whenever I'm out with my wife.

She will gives me problems whenever I have big event to attend such as bday party or company DND. She knows a lot about my company too. I'm really feeling tired as she is really too much.

She starts threaten me whenever I am out with family. Lately, she nearly kill my wife when she get down from the car. Is not possible to move the office as details can be obtained from website. There is no security in the office so she can come in anytime.

Even if we fight I can't hit her back at all as u all know Sg law is protecting the women. She is such a strong lady and ever broke my stuff with her punch

[Saltyraw]

Bro seek your family ( siblings ) help and support.
Or discuss with your close friends how to handle her.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Mavyungt

I have gf for more than 10 years... I wanted to ditch her long time ago but very difficult...

Let this be a lesson to everyone that if they want some pussy on the side, just pay for it by the hour and all will be well.

[Mavyungt]

Most of her friends are divorcees and they actually taught her a lot of things. She tells people that she is my second wife and my children are her children too which I find it disgusting. When I told her I'm busy as I need to guide my children on work and studies, she will starts condemn them and keep saying they are useless. Whenever I have business dealing with female she will thinks I have affair with them and she starts harras those ladies which makes me feel very shameful. To a certain extend, she sent those threaten videos to them so that they stay away from me.

Even I never tell her my flights details, she got ways to check it out when I'm flying back and wait for me at the airport to catch me. All these really irritates me. What I need is freedom... I hate people checking on me..

Anyone has any ideas how to get rid of her??

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Mavyungt

Anyone has any ideas how to get rid of her??

Emigrate to some South American country.

[yangguo]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Emigrate to some South American country.

Hmm.. Not a good idea leh.

I guess it's good idea to hire a hitman from South America to get rid of her.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by yangguo

Hmm.. Not a good idea leh.

I guess it's good idea to hire a hitman from South America to get rid of her.

Yeah but if you import a hitman to do the job in Singapore, the police will easily put 2 and 2 together and you'll end up at the gallows so nothing is achieved.

However, if he moves to some third world country and she follows him there to cause trouble, then "hitman" is the way to go.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Mavyungt

Anyone has any ideas how to get rid of her??

I guessed you already knew and heard many advice...think is really up to you to prevent a major family crisis...before you fell into headline news in major papers....

I dun sympathize with you...you had fun with her for 10 yrs and now you wanted to ditch her...you deserved the bad karma you built over the years...

if I guess correctly...you are person with certain status....breaking news in the making....

Note...the above is IMHO...not to upset anyone...pls skip if you dun like to read...