Meeting up with my EX-turned-friend

[justintv]

Hi all samsters, in need of some advice here.

I have an ex-girlfriend that I dated many years back, and after breaking up, we sort of became good friends. Back then when we were still "puppy loving", we were still teenagers and shy, so we didn't do much stuff that is sexual in nature.

Ever since we broke up, we each went on to have our own steads but once in awhile, we would still meet up for meals, drinks, movies etc, or go to each other's places to hangout, just as friends. Most of the time, it would be pure innocent tcss session, but sometimes, we would actually start making out and the furthest we went was 3rd base (mutual masturbation).

After that we both got afraid of meeting in ulu places or going to each other's places for fear of going "too far". So we would usually just meet for meals and movies and thats it.

Recently things got a little hot again and we would be meeting for a late night movie next week. So here's my question: Though we definitely don't want anything steady, I know for sure both of us still have some sort of sexual attraction towards each other. But going on slow is the key, so how should I initiate her back to my place for some hanky panky?

[kryptoz]

Originally Posted by justintv

Hi all samsters, in need of some advice here.

I have an ex-girlfriend that I dated many years back, and after breaking up, we sort of became good friends. Back then when we were still "puppy loving", we were still teenagers and shy, so we didn't do much stuff that is sexual in nature.

Ever since we broke up, we each went on to have our own steads but once in awhile, we would still meet up for meals, drinks, movies etc, or go to each other's places to hangout, just as friends. Most of the time, it would be pure innocent tcss session, but sometimes, we would actually start making out and the furthest we went was 3rd base (mutual masturbation).

After that we both got afraid of meeting in ulu places or going to each other's places for fear of going "too far". So we would usually just meet for meals and movies and thats it.

Recently things got a little hot again and we would be meeting for a late night movie next week. So here's my question: Though we definitely don't want anything steady, I know for sure both of us still have some sort of sexual attraction towards each other. But going on slow is the key, so how should I initiate her back to my place for some hanky panky?

if you feel that there's sexual tension, going slow might kill the mood. head straight for the kill!

[nuclearkid]

Some girls regard physical intimacy as a natural step towards a relationship. If you go all the way with her, it's a tacit agreement to be together as far as she is concerned. If that's not what you want, you may lose a good friend in the process. The only way is to subtly sound her out and be clear. Better to lose a good time then a good friend.

[eeemen]

Good advice bro nuclearkid ! One other point I'd raise is have you guys sort of talked about it? Maybe all she wants is a close FB? Unless you sense that she's wanting to get back being stead with u? Anyway, all the best bro, and enjoy it, life is just too too short. Cheers ............

[asdfghjkl]

yeah.. make sure you discuss first with her and have mutual consent..

[westendgirl]

ex could have different objectives. spend some time with her and keep completely open minded. you will be able to pick up the hidden message or signal that she is "sending" out. dont go out with a FAQ like "what do you want?" "you want to come back issit?" etc. women are sensitive beings and they can pick up your response to their signals.

so be clear and succinct. don't lead your ex on by dragging your feet or giving non-committal answer.

hope the above help.

[superduker1]

Oh.... Sometimes such things no need much to be said. If both of you feels comfortable with each other, then let the feelings do the talking.

I once had a ex-gf who doesn't wants a relationship with me but only wants sexual needs from me. And we never talked abt it at all and till now we are still good friends.

Guess she likes to have no commitments in an underground love but fulfilling her needs at the same time. (maybe I should start writing stories too.. Lol.. )

If both of you feels the same...Mai tu Liao!!! Ups Liao!! =p

[callmebad]

sex is a very individual type of thing
every woman is different
if the girl can separate sex from love (like most men do), will be ok
most girls lump sex and love as one
you have to find out if your ex is belonged to which category before you proceed